Getting to know the girl before marriage

Q: There is this ayah in the Quran "and that each person will only have what they endeavoured towards".

I understand that it is about afterlife and has nothing to do with wordly affairs. One of my friends used this in the context that you have to make effort to find a spouse and for that they were willing to get into talking stage with someone in the absence of a wali. Do I have to make an effort in finding a spouse and is talking to someone for that matter allowed?

A: No. All practising Muslims married without doing these. Unfortunately, this is a western lifestyle that has crept into our lives. It has crept in so deeply that we have begun to be convinced that nikaah cannot take place without this rotten stinking behaviour. Up to this day, all good Muslims make nikaah very comfortably and respectfully without this filth.

This aayat does not only refer to the hereafter. It refers to this life also.

And Allah Ta'ala (الله تعالى) knows best.


Answered by:

Mufti Ebrahim Salejee (Isipingo Beach)