Missing fajar Salaah
Q: I pray my namaz as regular as I can. I do miss my fajar some times. I sometimes have to face many problems at a time. I get to disheartened.
Advice
Wazifa for good character
Q: My father was abused when he was younger, so he in turn abused my mother (mentally, financially) and he did so to me as well as I am the eldest of 3 girls. He has bad character and when he shows some goodness, it turns sour. As I grew older I looked deeper into it and I saw that his character shows signs of a narcissism and then about 3 years ago I started looking at myself and questioning my character and I too realized I am also a narcissist. I read that a persons character is partially from the DNA and mostly from your upbringing environment. On the one hand my dad was harsh and cruel and on the other hand my mom was too soft and pitied me and she made me so weak and at times I remember her being cruel with me as well which I understand as she was taking her frustrations out on me of her suffering and unhappiness with my dad. My whole existence is confusing because the one moment I do a good deed and I feel in my heart that I have good character and kindness like my mom but then the evil side creep in then I get bad thoughts and intentions. I am sick. I hate myself because I hurt my husband and children. I didn't had to get married and have children because I hurt them and they do not need this, I did not know this at the time. Alhamdulilah my husband is a good person, a good son and son in law and a good friend and husband. My children alhamdulilah are both healthy and beautiful mashaAllah but I am ungrateful. Please help, I don't want to hurt them. Here are a few of my bad characteristics: (Selfish,Socially inept, antisocial, Suspicious,Sneaky, dishonest, Weak, Moody, bipolar, Judgemental, Proud, Jealous, envious, Ego, Defensive, hard headed, quick to get angry,Devoid of love and empathy, Evil thoughts,Despise people, hate, Depressed, Regret, Nostalgic.)
I don't want to have bad character, but how do I rid it if its me? I want to love my family, husband and children but I feel so angry and irritated when I look at them. I want to love them and feel empathy when they hurting but I hate it when they share their feelings of pain with me, its like I cant tolerate it and I don't want this feeling, I want to love them. I hurt my husband and children before by hitting them and abusing them when I got angry or felt selfish. I get evil ugly thoughts which I also don't want.
Being attracted to males
Q: I am eighteen years old. Physically I am a proper male but mentally and emotionally I never feel like males. I am always attracted towards males and I have interest in them. I think that I am a female in male appearance. Please sir help me to get rid of this and kindly tell me any "Tasbih". This problem is since my childhood but then I didn't know about it?
Black magic
Q: I was told by a sheikh that someone did black magic on me three to four years ago. I ate something that sits below my navel. Over the years several others have told me that I'm possessed by a jinn. Due to the difference of opinion on taweez I am reluctant to go with it. Please advise on any aamaal to remove black magic?
Advice for the Hujjaaj
Q: Please give some advice for the Hujaaj?
Husband involved with another woman
Q: I am a forty year old women. Married for 21 years. My husband is involved with a women. I had caught him several times doing heinous activities. I have always tried to conceal and believe his fake clearances. I offer five times salah. I learn and teach Quran. I had always been far from any heinous acts. Now that he has lost his interest in me. I have read in Qur'an somewhere that good man for good women and sinful man for sinful women. Does this mean that I am also sinful? Or do some other sin so that I am paired with this man? I have four daughters. My husband shouts aloud in the house so that no one dares to discuss his evil activities. I don't know what shall I do. Every next day of my life seems more miserable. Please help me out and pray for me. If there is any wazifa in this regard, please let me know.
Black magic
Q: I am from India. Since I am feeling helpless in life these days I consulted a mufti. He says I am suffering through black magic. Should I believe him? I probably mean do muftis lie?
Premarital relationship
Q: I am in great dilemma and I want to seek a proper advice in the light of Islam and hadeeths from you. My question is I am in love with a women whom I consider good in her religion character and conduct who actually is my fathers sisters daughters daughter however the problem is my father is not in good terms with the rest of the family and the relationships between his siblings have worsened over the years and because of relationships going bad he is reluctant in getting me married to her we have been in a relationship and agreed to not to come in any forms of contact until we legalise this relationship the Islamic way and in accordance to the sunnah. I want to convince my parents for this relationship as I consider and rely upon Allah that this relationship holds the capability of being advantageous to Islam. I request you to kindly advise me on this as to how to convince my parents and correct me if my approach is wrong.
Wife staying at her sisters house
Q: My wife wants to stay at her sister's residence for a couple of nights alone. However, the husband of her sister, although her first cousin, is not a mahram and therefore it is not permissible for my wife to stay there because he will be around. There is no other mahram in that house. All three of them know very well that it is not permissible but my wife is rebellious. Her sister and her sister's cousin husband pray regularly and fast regularly but when it comes to such matters, they throw islamic injunctions away and never guide my wife but assist her in her rebellious ways. Now, even in Western countries, it would be unusual for a woman to be staying without her husband a night at her sister's with the sister's husband around. Nothing reasonable has helped guide my wife and her blood relations away from creating problems in many matters, even prayers for their guidance so far. So, what should I do in this situation? Should I also pray against her blood relations because their injustice and interference is growing and is causing deep problems? (Is it possible for you to reply to me soon because my wife plans to go there tomorrow?) Thank you.
Marital problems
Q: I went to a haafiz who is very well known to be able to find out if anyone is possessed. I have been having problems with my wife for a long time and been separated for around nine months. He had asked for a picture of me and my wife which I sent. He has said to me by looking at the picture all the things that my wife has been doing and all the things that have been happening in my marriage. He also knew what my wife had done to me as in mentally draining he also said a few thing about my mother in-law trying to break my marriage which was also right. He has advised me to leave her as he only sees destruction for me as my wife will never change and that her mother has corrupted her. I am not sure what to make of this. Should I follow what he is saying or not? He is very well known to be accurate and I believe its called muraqaba that is what he may have done but he knew a lot of information about my marriage by just looking at my and my wife's photos and our names and address. I need help as I am not sure what to do. Should I leave my wife or not?