Advice

Q: My situation is that we are two brothers and two sisters. All are married. Now when our first elder sister got married. Even though she has been married in the same city, our parents are making them live here in our home for the last 5 years without any reason.

The same happened to our younger sister. She's also living here with her husband. Now our home is a two bedroom house. We are also married.

Things were getting messy all the time. We discussed the matter with our parents but they won't listen to us.

Today we (brothers) got a bit more angry and asked them to let their daughter's live at their In-laws which is good for them. But they said they are not going anywhere and you may go leave the house with your wife's.

I swear to Allah that we have been always gentle to our parents and took care of them. I know our demand is totally compatible with Sharia, social values and custom's of society. Please guide me what should I do.

Q: What can a person do if he has bad thoughts about people and their misfortunes, evil glances and waswasa. He makes lot of istigfaar but does not help.

Q: I am student of graduation and searching for a good job. I have question regarding family issues. Since I realized that my parents and siblings have always been unsupportive and I am loveless. Now my age is 26, and I can't adjust myself in my family everything is uncontrolled. Living with two big brothers and two little sister and no one is married. In future it would be difficult to live with them anymore. I don't want to misbehave and quarrel with anyone, but I want to spend my life separately. What is your guidance according to Quran and hadith... Can I leave them forever? I tried hard to manage but outcome is zero. Can I separate myself, because things are getting worse everyday?

Q: I want to be with the good people on the Day of Resurrection. Can you please advise me?

Q: My children don't take interest in their studies and don't listen to us. Please give us some wazifa.

Q: I am scared to get married but my parents are forcing me. I grew up in an environment where my parents fight everyday and both of my parents are involved in extra marital affairs. It is upsetting for me because obviously nobody will accept that and suppose, even if I do get married and that person gets to know about it he might leave me... Please help me as I am getting rude towards my parents. I am trying to keep myself close to Allah Ta'ala but as soon as my parents are telling me anything related to that I am unable to hear it.

Q: Is it appropriate for a husband to make full on conversations with other women in front of his wife? He asks other women about their personal lives, like their gym life and their husbands etc. Is it appropriate for the husband to randomly message girls on online games commenting on their pictures?

Q: I am a 18 year old male, and I want to join the Canadian Forces. From an Islamic perspective can my parents stop me from joining the military? Please note I am joining the military in the finance department and will not be in any combat situation, and will not be harming and killing anyone.

Q: I'm 25 years old living with my parents. After completing my studies I got a rishta from Canada. I talked to that guy for 8 months but it was merely a simple "get to know" talk. They visited us and everything went great. Later, his dad asked for my rishta officially and the wedding date was set. After two months we had to call it off because according to the guy, he was forced into it. I had to bear the consequences.

After a year, another rishta came from a guy in South africa. We connected immediately, he came and we got engaged. He went back and after two months we got to know his PR expired and to extend it, he did a paper marriage.

Also, according to the new rules I wont be able to go there or work. Once again we had to call it off. This time I cant take this burden, I want to die - I hate my life soo much. I dont have any strength in me. Please help.

Q: l have a question about my married life.

I was married for 22 years and I have a daughter of 20 years. 8 months ago I got divorced by my husband. For the last 10 years I have been facing all kinds of family problems. He tortured me mentally and didn't even maintain any physical relations with me for the last 6-7 years. We were living in the same house but separately. He didn't talk to me or see me for months

3 years ago we were in separated for 1.5 years but for the sake of my daughter I went back to his house.After 2-3 months the situation became the same. I left my job to make him happy. He performed hajj 7 years ago but never performs a single salah. He is extremely bad tempered, uses slang words and still maintains several extra marital affairs. His tendency was to find my faults at any coast and always dominated and insulted me. He couldn't show his true colour till my mother-in law was alive because she loved me a lot.

I tolerated everything for my daughter with great hope that Allah (SWT) will fix my problem and I always wanted and want the best Judgement from Him. After my divorce I am mentally free now. I firmly believe that Allah has done the best for my daughter and me. My ex-husband has sent my daughter abroad to study as well as to make his way free. None of his family members supported his disdained activity but support me a lot.

My question is that, is my current situation a punishment for me and a reward to him? I tolerated every situation with sabr. If it is a punishment for me then what and how will be my reward be? If it is a reward for my ex husband, what will he get in return?