Advice

What should be given priority when looking to move to another country?

Q: I have job offers in three different countries. My wife is pregnant so we need to move before the baby is born but she needs to get a visa in each place. All the jobs have benefits, some have a better salary, some are easier to get a visa, etc.

What should I look at as a priority? I know Allah has given me opportunities but I want to make a choice that pleases Him.

Living with in-laws

Q: My situation is that we are two brothers and two sisters. All are married. Now when our first elder sister got married. Even though she has been married in the same city, our parents are making them live here in our home for the last 5 years without any reason.

The same happened to our younger sister. She's also living here with her husband. Now our home is a two bedroom house. We are also married.

Things were getting messy all the time. We discussed the matter with our parents but they won't listen to us.

Today we (brothers) got a bit more angry and asked them to let their daughter's live at their In-laws which is good for them. But they said they are not going anywhere and you may go leave the house with your wife's.

I swear to Allah that we have been always gentle to our parents and took care of them. I know our demand is totally compatible with Sharia, social values and custom's of society. Please guide me what should I do.

Separating from one's parents

Q: I am student of graduation and searching for a good job. I have question regarding family issues. Since I realized that my parents and siblings have always been unsupportive and I am loveless. Now my age is 26, and I can't adjust myself in my family everything is uncontrolled. Living with two big brothers and two little sister and no one is married. In future it would be difficult to live with them anymore. I don't want to misbehave and quarrel with anyone, but I want to spend my life separately. What is your guidance according to Quran and hadith... Can I leave them forever? I tried hard to manage but outcome is zero. Can I separate myself, because things are getting worse everyday?

Fear of getting married

Q: I am scared to get married but my parents are forcing me. I grew up in an environment where my parents fight everyday and both of my parents are involved in extra marital affairs. It is upsetting for me because obviously nobody will accept that and suppose, even if I do get married and that person gets to know about it he might leave me... Please help me as I am getting rude towards my parents. I am trying to keep myself close to Allah Ta'ala but as soon as my parents are telling me anything related to that I am unable to hear it.