Advice

Q: I got married in 2001 to a revert woman. We have three children 17, 9 and 8 year old. I am working abroad and visit twice a year. My wife is unhappy because I support my mother since my father passed away 4 years ago. I provide for her well enough accordingly to my ability.

We have a problem for about 10 years and I am afraid that if I leave her she will become apostate and my children's future will be in trouble. All the time she threaten's me that she will leave and marry another person. She openly opposes to support my mother and sisters. She stopped any physical relations with me 8 years ago. What should I do?

Q: I have job offers in three different countries. My wife is pregnant so we need to move before the baby is born but she needs to get a visa in each place. All the jobs have benefits, some have a better salary, some are easier to get a visa, etc.

What should I look at as a priority? I know Allah has given me opportunities but I want to make a choice that pleases Him.

Q: I like to be alone and I don't have any close friends. I don't go out unnecessary. Is there anything wrong with me?

Q: If a woman finds her brother's behavior strange which is like sexual harassment, what shoudl she do?She's not married.

Q: For a few years I have this habit of overthinking. Be it be at work or at home. For petty issues or major issues I overthink to such an extent that my health begins to detoriate. Even in religious matters, I decide one thing but later someone tells me that I am doing the wrong thing. What can I do in this regard?

Q: My situation is that we are two brothers and two sisters. All are married. Now when our first elder sister got married. Even though she has been married in the same city, our parents are making them live here in our home for the last 5 years without any reason.

The same happened to our younger sister. She's also living here with her husband. Now our home is a two bedroom house. We are also married.

Things were getting messy all the time. We discussed the matter with our parents but they won't listen to us.

Today we (brothers) got a bit more angry and asked them to let their daughter's live at their In-laws which is good for them. But they said they are not going anywhere and you may go leave the house with your wife's.

I swear to Allah that we have been always gentle to our parents and took care of them. I know our demand is totally compatible with Sharia, social values and custom's of society. Please guide me what should I do.

Q: What can a person do if he has bad thoughts about people and their misfortunes, evil glances and waswasa. He makes lot of istigfaar but does not help.

Q: I am student of graduation and searching for a good job. I have question regarding family issues. Since I realized that my parents and siblings have always been unsupportive and I am loveless. Now my age is 26, and I can't adjust myself in my family everything is uncontrolled. Living with two big brothers and two little sister and no one is married. In future it would be difficult to live with them anymore. I don't want to misbehave and quarrel with anyone, but I want to spend my life separately. What is your guidance according to Quran and hadith... Can I leave them forever? I tried hard to manage but outcome is zero. Can I separate myself, because things are getting worse everyday?

Q: I want to be with the good people on the Day of Resurrection. Can you please advise me?

Q: My children don't take interest in their studies and don't listen to us. Please give us some wazifa.