Advice

Q: There is a mother working in Saudi as a nurse, always beating her elder daughter, her age is 16 years. The mother is saying the daughter is unlucky, using very very bad words to her for the past 10 years. The father and uncles are also helpless. The father sent the daughter to another uncles house for studying, far from his house around 250 kilometres,but unfortunately this family went on vacation and the daughter came to her house. The mother again started beating her, using very bad language with her. The father is helpless. What  should the father do? Should he get her married? What should he do? Please advise or send some wazifa for the daughter to save her life.

Q: I am 28 year old. I have been fairly successful in my career and I have never been married. I am very well groomed and have chosen to remain pure out of the fear for Allah Ta'ala. I will prefer to marry a muslim women with similar traits in compliant with Shariah. I am well versed in the Qur'an. Should I find a women around here and just marry her or will it be permissible for me to ask a Mufti to refer good muslim women for me to choose from, as I want to do it according Shariah strictly. 

Q: I am married to my first cousin. He is a very tough person to deal with. He drinks, dopes, and does all kind of drugs. He hits me, abuse me and my parents. I tried to get rid of him but my parents are totally against divorce. But now I have a daughter and I think about her future and stay quiet. In addition to all this my phupho (saas) is also a very cruel woman. I can't stand my in-laws at all. They pump my husband against me. I want my husband to leave his parents house and shift in some other city. Please give me a wazifa so that I can make my husband leave this house and city. Please help me.

Q: My friend took khula from her husband (father of her kids) and after a year did nikaah with someone else. After 2 months she left him and went back to her ex-husband and denied her nikaah with the second husband and remarried her first husband without taking divorce from the second husband. She said that the second husband is lying about their nikaah and even filed a case of marriage jactation against the second husband in the court which is still pending. Now after 2 years she is again meeting the second husband secretly while she is still staying with her first husband and now she says that the second husband is her husband and she has sexual relationship with him and goes back home and acts like her first husband's wife and also has sexual relations with him. Please tell me who is her Islamic husband and who is doing zina with her? 

Q: I want to marry a boy who is going to convert into Muslim from Hindu religion to get married with me. He is ready to convert by heart into Islam. He believes in kalima tayyibah. Should I marry him? Please guide me.

Q: We are undergoing difficulties and experiencing upheavals in our family relations. Could you show us some wazifa to unite our hearts and overcome our problems?

Q: My husband is too involved with his sisters. They don't like me and put him against me. My husband is ok with me but they say stuff to him so that he does not love me and he starts supporting them and disrespecting me. Any wazifas? They are evil. Is there any wazifa so I can get them out my life?

Q: I pray you can help I'm desperate for some direction. Me and my husband both work. I earn more than him. His family lives in another country.  His father works but has a lot of debts to pay off. Me and my husband have been married for a year only so we don't have much savings. He pays the mortgage and I pay the bills. We cannot save much.  He asked me if we could send his family £500 a month. I wanted to send less as we have just got married and need to save. But he got angry so I agreed to £500 a month to send to his family. He promised me that if in any given month we were short on money or we wanted to spend on us for example buying furniture then he would not send his family £500 for that month. He promised me we would only send them money if we were able to every month. We have been sending them £500 a month for many months now. We are planning to have a child. I will have to stop working in a few months. We can't live off his pay only so we need to save some money for when I'm not working. Also our house is furnished with old furniture from my parents house. Last week we went furniture shopping. My husband was reluctant to buy anything. He told me he didn't think we should spend on furniture because he wants to give his dad. £1000 for a visa to visit us. I got upset because we only have £3000 in our savings and we need to save for when I have a baby. He got angry that I said no and we had a fight. It's my money too that I earned so I felt I had the right to say no especially when we send £500 a month already. Anyway this month we do not have much money to spend and buy much food. We are living penny to penny. We have £3000 in our savings but we are not touching that because we will need it when I fall pregnant. So this month we couldn't afford to send his dad £500. But now he wants to take £500 out of our savings to send to his dad. I feel hurt because he knows we are living penny to penny this month so we don't eat into our savings but now he wants to send £500 to his dad? He gets paid at the end of the month I told him to send it then. But he got angry and said he will send another £500 then! I'm worried he isn't thinking about the fact that in a few months I won't be earning and we will rely on his income only which isn't even enough to pay the bills so it's important that we save now. I don't mind sending his dad money when we are able to. I feel cheated. He promised me he wud only send his parents money if we have enough money too, but I feel he prefers us to struggle so he can send them money. Am I wrong? Please please advice as I don't want to do anything islamically wrong.

Q: I want to clear my confusion about certain issues of my married life. I have recently married. Before my marriage I was doing a graceful job. The reason for working was to eliminate my dependency on my parents and to support my studies which I did side by side of my job. Soon after my education completion my parents associated me with one of my family cousins in family. At the time of engagement the boy and his family were fully aware that I am a working lady. The mean time when we remained engaged they did not cleared the stance weather I will continue my job after marriage on not. After marriage my husband went to Saudi Arabia for job and left me here and we agreed that meantime he completes the formalities and documentation from Saudi Arabia, I shall carry on my job. Its been 6 months that we got married my husband did not care for my nafaqah and whenever I claim he tells me that I am earning money and he has some other things to spend on and refuses to pay or even becomes angry and threatens me with divorce. He forces me to spend my earnings on his brother's family and have taken huge amounts for his degree fees too. I was doing all of it for him thinking in my mind that soon I'll move to Saudi Arabia soon. But I have realised that he does not acknowledge my efforts and contribution I made. At the end of the day he says I have not done anything for him and he don't need my job and forces me to resign immediately. I am in a fix if I would stop working he will not pay me anything. How will I survive? I cannot ask my parents to support me. If I don't quit my job he threatens me off and on during quarrel on some other things to resign immediately. Please guide me in the light of Islam about my rights and obligations.

Q: A young girl is due to give birth anytime inshallah. After birth she's set to go to her parents home for her confinement. Now she receives the news that her parents will be going out in masturaat jamaat. This young girl was sad and depress and pleaded for them not to go now and may be go on another occasion but they would not listen. When they will be away the girls aunties and sister will take care of her. There family members are from other towns though, causing them to leave their respected husbands and children to take care of her needs. Will this be correct or what should be done?