Advice

How to spend one's salary

Q: I would like to know if there is any guidelines in the shari'ah on how one should spend their money/salary. Someone told me that it was the advice of one of the ulama that your income/salary should be divided into 3 parts:

  1. Charity ie discharging zakaat, qurbani and spending on ones parents etc
  2. For your living essentials and spending.
  3. Savings

What is muftis opinion on the above? Also I would like to know if a person can stop doing the above with no valid reason?

Sending one's daughter to live with her uncles and aunts in Pakistan

Q: My daughter has a very bad behaviour. She is 12. I want to send her to Pakistan to her grandparents. Her aunties and uncles are there who read their 5 times salaah and observe pardah (what am saying is its an Islamic environment). Is it right for me to send her because I am the parent and its my duty as a mother, but she doesn't listen to me at all. I am scared she might end up going on the wrong path.

Wazifa for the return of stolen wealth

Q: I am living in UK. There is a man who took my 53 thousand pounds and ran away one year a go. He made me homeless. I sold my house and I was going buy an other house. The evil person took my money and disappeared. Please help me and give me some wazifa I can read for god to make him return back to me my money. I am a lone woman, no parents and I am disabled.

Solution for those in despair and helplessness

Q: Please pray for me and give me guidance. My soul is so lost and broken. I am a sinful Muslim and have committed many sins against Allah. And now I realise the errors of my ways. I am in a very bad place and don't know how to gain my self respect back. I am in love with a man that does not love me, we are not married but were at one point intimate friends and hoped to be married. But things changed and he stopped loving me. However since then we have just been friends. Me being in the hope that he would realise that I love him much and he would marry me. However all this man has done is to take advantage of my feelings play with my emotions and leave me feeling like a worthless human taking advantage of my kindness. I know I probably deserve what I am getting now. But I am so sad and in despair. I need some help and support and don't know what to do. My situation is so bad I have been humiliated and shamed by him through the way he speaks to me and the things he does and how he constantly toys with my emotions. I need help please advise me on how I can get it together and loose the love of this man from my heart for I have tried for 10 years or more. He will not leave me alone always calling me and manipulating me and I am weak and always fall for his traps and he uses my friendship to make fun of me for amusement. Yet I can't fight this or see this for what it is. Please give me a prayer or wazifa. I know my request is shameful but I have no one to turn to.

Looking for a job

Q: I was working in one of world's best company for the last two years. Due to some dispute with the manager I resigned in the month of April. Since then I am looking for a job but I cannot succeed. I have been offering namaz and have been fasting throughout this month of Ramzan but still nothing is working out for me. I have completed few wazifas as well but it didn't help me either. Can you please suggest for me what should I do. I am desperately looking for a job and all my savings are about to expire.

Joining family ties

Q: I wanted to ask that if someone cannot continue relations with his relatives, will his prayers be accepted or not? If not, then will all his prayers and worship for Allah Ta'ala be accepted or gone to waste? 

Husband not interested in wife

Q: I am married for the last 10 years. I have no children because my husband is infertile. The sperm count for my husband is nill and we have tried different methods for a baby but have not succeeded. I am in great trouble right now, not because of the baby, but because of the attitude of my husband towards me. He does not like me from the very begining of my marriage and I always demand love and attention from his side. We are currently living like two unfamiliar people in the same home. He does not want to sit with me, sleep with me and always taunts me. Also, he does not have any romantic feelings with me for which I always fight. He spends his all his time watching tv. I spent these 10 years with great patience and I always took care of him and his relatives. But now I cannot bear any more. How can I spend my remaining life because I have no children and my husband does not even love me. Although he fulfils my basic needs but not by heart.