Advice

Harassed by one's employer

Q: I asked my boss to raise my salary as I am working for 6 years, but instead of raising he is trying to take out some fault in me and for small mistakes he is harassing me by sending emails and degrading me in front of others. Please help me out. If I leave the job I am scared that I may not get another job.

Wasting water

Q: There is a Muslim brother who waters his lawn all day. The water runs off on to the road. I as a Muslim know that water is a gift from Allah Ta'ala. How do I approach my fellow Muslim brother in Islam and tell him not to waste this precious gift from Allah Ta'ala? His neighbours who are Hindus only water their lawn for a few hours and it does not run on to the road. The saddest thing is he is a Moulana.

Experiencing difficulties in the business

Q: I have a fast food business and hotel for the last 11 years. I have worked very hard and developed the business very nicely. From last year 2012 it is going downwards and I am suffering from various problems. Business is not good and I have money problems and loan problems. I attend namaaz and I read many things in the day and night, but I can't understand what is happening in my life and in my business. My condition is becoming very bad day by day. Please tell me the solution or give me any wazifa so I can get some help.

Depression

Q: I have severe depression from about 10 years. I am also feeling mental frustration from many years. The frustration has increased so much from past years that every day I think of suiciding. I am a student but my mind is so frustrated that I am unable to study. I feel become frustrated for the nothing. I am not able to interact with people. Also my heart remains very unstable for the whole day. I have visited many doctors but didn't improve. Please give me some solution.

Family broken up due to estate problems

Q: My father were 4 brothers and 1 sister. As my grandfather expired at such a time where my father and his siblings were quite young, my father's eldest brother therefore took care of the family business. My grandfather owned a leather factory. Few years things were going well Alhumdulilah but later after the marriage of my father's eldest brother he deprived everybody else in the family except his mother of the income which was till now being generated from the factory. He said that because since so many years he was looking after the business therefore the factory was now his and nobody in the family was to put his claim anymore. My grandmother also supported him because she was getting her monthly expenditure from him. My father, mother and the rest of my uncles and aunt took the matter to the court but even there my eldest uncle did something because of which my parents had to withdraw the case. Since then, my parents were in a very bad financial condition and had to suffer a lot. Now the state of my family is like very hostile towards each other. My eldest uncle has now expired and his wife has taken over the business and we are still deprived of the income which is generated from the factory. This hurts my parents and many a times a fight ensues. The  daughters of my eldest uncle has abused my mother very badly and said things to her which was worst than the worst. Keeping all the situations in mind, what should we do now as we are not in talking terms with them but fear Allah's anger that if we break ties then Allah will be angry but being in talking terms with them is very tough as they even think that we are doing so in order to gain benefit from them which is not true. As they have abused my mother I just don't feel like being good towards them any more. What should be done in this case? And what is to be done with the factory thing? Don't we have any right over its income? Its been 25 years nearly since we have been deprived of our rights. 

Wife refusing to live with in-laws

Q: I am maried for 9 years. I stayed with my parents for 8 years, then moved out for 1 year. Now my dad had his leg amputated and I think I need to move back. My wife on the other hand says she will never move back to my parents house even if it means divorce. I even told her I will build a cottage in the same yard. What is your advise? I have a 2 year old son who my parents really love. If we separate my wife will probably be spitefully and go to Pakistan with my son.

Consulting the parents with regards to nikaah

Q: My friend and I like each other and we want to make nikaah so that we can have a halaal relationship and not be boy friend and girlfriend. His parents said that they want to come home to speak to my parents about us making nikaah. My parents don't want us to make nikaah and they threaten me to stop wanting to marry him or else they will force me to marry some one else or they will hit him. I really want my relationship to be halaal and I wanat to make nikaah. What should I do? Will it be wrong if I make nikaah without my parents consent?

Rukhsati

Q: I want my rukhsati, please help me. My husband is not talking to me and not even replying to me. I am so worried. My nikkah was on the 4th november 2012.