Advice

Q: I have been staying with my parents and presently I am at the age of 36 unmarried female. During my childhood days I was facing troubles from a Hindu guy whom my father had taken debts..my parents asked me to tolerate the trouble of that guy just because they are under indebtedness. As of now they never asked me about my marriage nor searched alliances for me.. If I ask something they stop talking to me or behave rudely with me.. However, I have been tolerating it.. My question is as of today my two sisters are married and one of our brother-in-law he tries to seduce or grab my younger sisters and takes undue advantage of them. If they complain my parents especially mother asks them not to tell it to anybody fearing reputation and respect of the family.. Till what age they have to face this.. And my father he never listens to our problems.. Sometimes he listens to half of the issues and reacts without a second thought.. He stops talking with us... What we have to do.. We are helpless from all ends..

Q: How should one advise a female family member who feels strongly about gender equality?

Q: Sadly I have found a video recording of my wife with another man. Can I use this video in an Islamic court as proof of her cheating? It is conclusive that it is in fact her as there is mentioned very specific personal details.

Q: I am a Palestinian woman, 20 years old now in USA, my family is back in Palestine. Desperate for marriage I went on a Muslim matrimonial website and found a Pakistani man to be my husband. I have met his family and spent much time with his family. Due to our tradition though, he says he cannot marry me and will not marry me until he and his parents meet my parents. There really is not a way to make that happen at least for years. What do I do? What are the options for us? We are engaged, will I have to repent to Allah if this does not work out? I am so lost and alone please help.

Q: Your advice is being sought for the following:

In case a wife who has been advised not to do 'eyebrow shaping' (epilation des sourcils) numerous times by her husband, but the wife does not obey her husband and still does it often due to peer pressure because her sisters do it often. What course of action may the husband take?

Q: Today I saw a white spot on my wife's shalwar. I was amazed but I didnt ask her. Is it possible it can be any woman disease or my wife is unfaithful with me?

Q: When hypocrisy is in the heart how to cure it?

Q: I am in a dilemma. The scenario is as such. I am newly married. My wife teaches in a masjid full time Hifz and drives there and back home. She is not living with me at the moment. She will start living with me at the end of April. I disapprove of this teaching in the masjid and the driving.

The thing is my wife said she wants to continue teaching and driving back and forth. She says that she will be bored in the day and wants to keep herself busy. I totally disagree and feel she can do her own dor and teach at home.

My dad gives me mushwara to let her drive and work in the masjid and so does her father until we, inshaAllah have a child.

I feel this totally negates the shariah. I am very sad at the moment and feel like crying because they make me feel like I'm stopping her from something good. I don't want her to work or drive. What is your advice on how I should proceed in this matter?

Q: My sister in law, that means my husbands younger sister, when she feeds her son breast milk, she takes her breasts out and feeds her son in an open room. My father in law, my brothers in law and my husband are all living together. When she breastfeeds her son, she doesn't close the room door but keeps the door wide. My husband went in that room to take his things but he didn't mean to go see her with an ugly mind. I too didn't mean that my husband is going to the room with an ugly mind. I know he is going to take his things which is in that room but when I was talking to my husband about this matter, I ask my husband "How do you have permission to go in that room when she was taking her breasts out, it is not permissible in Islam." Then my husband complained that I have an a ugly mind about his sister and he says that I'm an ugly woman and I'm suspecting their pure relationship. It's not like that wallahi, as a wife my husband hasn't seen my whole body. It's hurts me. That's why I am asking regarding his sister. He says that he has the total permission to go in front of his sister even if she feeds with her breasts out. Does my husband have permission to see his sisters body parts as a brother?

Q: I am married and pregnant with my first child. Currently I am staying with my parents in Saudi while my husband is in Kenya. I came for iqamah renewal. My husband sent a ticket for me to return but my parents got involved by not letting me go. Now my husband sent a text saying that he doesn't want me because of my parents. I tried calling and texting him but he isn't replying nor is his sister replying. Is getting away from my parents be wrong Islamically? I don't know what else to do.