Q: A person was in very high debt, this debt was caused by all the interest that built up over time, hence he was in financial difficulty. Was this debt caused by his own greed or Allah is testing him?
Q: I'm married for 2 years. After nikkah I shifted to my husband in Germany. After marriage we realized that we are two different people. I wanted his love but he said that he is not attracted to me. This thing frustrated me alot and left me in a condition of stress and depression. We had no intimate relation. We had so many arguments and fights because we were not having the basic relation. When I saw that he cares about other relations and friendsand they are very important in his life and it does not matter whether I'm present in his life or not. I couldn't take on the ignorance and lack of love from my husband anymore and moved back to my parents. His parents, relatives and friends advised him alot that he should fulfill my rights. After three months my husband contacted me and said that for the sake of his parents he wants me to come back. He'll give me respect and we'll have kids but he doesn't love me. I'm very much confused about my decision. What should I do according to Islamic teachings? At this point it is very difficult for me to trust my husband. Should I take a decision of khula or should I give it another chance?
Q: I am really struggling at the moment to keep my faith. I was born Muslim. I have had lots of issues in my life. The most recent one being that I am training to be a GP. I am at the end of my training but keep failing the last exam. It's odd as I have the knowledge and on the mock test score very high. But always fail by a small margin. This time by 4%. My issue is such, I try and be a good Muslim by praying. I even did the dua ya haseebo 11000 for 3 days before the exam. But still failed. One of my friends told me that she thinks I have some form of black magic done to me to stop me from passing and being successful. This may well be true as I was married before, and this ended and at that time I was told that it was as a result of black magic. It's been over 10 years now and I am married again with 2 children. Happy, but still struggle with even the smallest things in life.
My question is how do I find out if it is true about the black magic and if it is, what do I even do about it. I can see why people may think this, as how can I keep failing an exam I know so well, in a job I do everyday. Please can you advice me, as I feel I am stuck.
I have one last attempt and then I can't be a GP no more, as they only allow a certain attempts at the exam. This will mean I have wasted all these years of my training, and will have to start over again. Which will be very hard for me with 2 young children. Please advice what I can do.
Q: I got married when I was 21, and my husband was 36. When we met he was a non-Muslim, but reverted to Islam a month before we married. We have now been together for 14 years and have 3 Masha'Allah children. When we married, I did not practice Islam, or wear Hijab. About 2 years ago I realised that I had to make a change immediately and started wearing Hijab, making Salaah, and educating myself and my children on Islam. My husband was never interested. He always has an excuse, and has now even stopped going to Friday prayers. This is a huge concern for me as I worry about the example he is setting for our children. Whenever I try to speak to him about this, he laughs and says that I worry about everything. I've asked my father for help but he told me that I need to sort out my own problems. My husband has never had a fulltime job in all the years that we have been together. This means that I have to provide for him and our children (home, food, schools, transport, health, etc.) I earn a decent salary and I am able to provide for them but I'm exhausted all the time. Because when I get home from a full day's work, I still have to cook, see to the children, check that everything is prepared for the next day, clean, etc. There is almost no communication between us as we disagree on almost everything. I need to understand what my options are. I know that divorce is frowned upon, but I don't want to be married to a man who has no interest in Islam, or in me. What should I do?
Q: Would it be wise to marry my first cousin whose sister got divorced but his family sent her back with her ex-husband (who actually orally gave her talaaq 3 times) knowing the ex-husband had given his sister divorce? She is now living with her ex-husband and his family. Thus frustrates me and her brother has asked for my proposal.
Q: Why do we find problems between the spouses in the marriage? At times, the wife is defiant and does not wish to obey the husband and at times, the husband conducts irresponsibly towards his wife?
Q: A daughter is displeased with her father and does not wish to have anything to do with him. The father on the other hand is very upset with the daughter and is also ignoring her. The relationship is getting worse by the day. What can be done to mend the relationship?
Q: I've been in a relationship with someone for the past five years, the reason we didn't get married earlier was because my mother dissaproved. After a while I lost interest in the young man. Then I met someone new, I love this new person alot, but we had a had some issues and we broke up for a while about four months, so the first guy who had been in the picture earlier asked me if he could marry me so I said okay he could, but a month later the second guy returned back into my life and my heart preferd to be with him, but the other person had already introduced himself to my family.
1. What is the penalty for calling off the engagement with him so I could marry the one my heart is inclined towards?
2. What is the penalty for running away and getting married without my guardians consent, cause I can't tell them about the second person, cause he's not from the same race as I am.
I'd read a question were the answer was that it was shameful to do so, is it just shameful or is there a penalty for doing so with Allah Ta'ala.
Q: When I pray at the masjid, my father dont like it and always get angry. When I do tabligh work, he gets angry. When I am ready to go for jamat then my father is agaist it. What can I do? Also, when I pray my qiyamul layl at nigth he fights with me. Must I listen to him or can I carry on doing Allah's work? Is there any gunnah if I don't listen to him?
Q: I like one girl and she also likes me but due to family situations we cannot marry now or do nikaah in public but to avoid gunnah of zina we want to do nikaah and when the time is right we will marry insha Allah. Is there any way in shariat that before we meet each other alone in any place before that, can we do nikaah by our own without qazi and witnesses? Can we do nikaah on our own?