Q: Does Allah teach human beings as he taught the son of Adam (alaihis salaam) how to bury a body from the crow? Is it permissible for a man to extract meanings from his surroundings like crows, birds, lizards, etc.? Many people, including my mother also does that, and the conclusion they reach comes out to be true. My mother then tells me that Allah is teaching me and making me learn.
Q: I suspect my cousin's husband of doing magic to me and baby, what should I do?
Q: I am married for 4 years. 2 months ago after an argument, my husband walked out and abandoned our baby and I with no contact or financial assistance at all since then. I am unemployed and currently studying. Immediately after he left, the elders in my family tried to contact him to set up a meeting for a reconciliation or even to understand why he walked out. My husband has refuted any contact my family or I make with him. He has since then hired a lawyer to fight for his rights as a fater. According to my husbands lawyer, my husband has no wish to reconcile and feels the marriage is already over.
Over the span of our marriage he has committed many act of abuse to me with the last being of sexual abuse which occured a week befor he left us. He has also done some disturbing acts towards our 3 year old daughter. All of these abuses are linked to only a single issue. He has made me the enemy of his parents. And he has done that from the beginning of our marriage with no questions asked . The sole reason of me remaining married to him was I felt that if only he understood I was not the enemy he would treat me differently. Him being a Moulana and a marriage officer, I sincerely felt that if he took the time to assess the truth he would have realized I have no fault in what he blamed me for. He has waltzed into my life caused an upheaval for myself, daughter and family and he has now walked out. He refuses to even say why he wants to divorce me.
I know what my grievances are towards him. And I have tried many avenues to help our marriage. But he has never once told me my fault or tried to explain why he hates me. I have never cheated on him, never stole from him, never abused him or belittle/insult him or his famiy. His only issue with me is that I prevented his parents from seeing our child. But that too is incorrect. Yes the day after my daughter was born I did say that I did not want them to see her. But this was due to a large number of terrible reasons including blackmagic. However within 5 months later and thereafter many many times my family and I have tried to speak to them and tried to get them to see their grandchild. But they refused everytime. He blames me for this. His ultimate goal was to provide a grandchild for his mother.
I dont want him back in fear that he is capable of fully sexually harming my daughter and I and even killing us. Its already going for 3 months and he still has not divorced me yet he is fighting for visitational rights. I have read on askmufti.co.za that if a man leaves his home on his own he is still liable to maintain his wife. He has shattered me emotionally. He has destroyed our lives. Im not greedy for his money but if that is a way I can seek relief from all of the anguish he has caused onto my family and I, I am willing to take it. His actions have damaged me. What are the rulings against him maintaining me. Is it Islamically so easy for him to simply abandon me because in his mind I am the enemy?
Q: A person was in very high debt, this debt was caused by all the interest that built up over time, hence he was in financial difficulty. Was this debt caused by his own greed or Allah is testing him?
Q: I'm married for 2 years. After nikkah I shifted to my husband in Germany. After marriage we realized that we are two different people. I wanted his love but he said that he is not attracted to me. This thing frustrated me alot and left me in a condition of stress and depression. We had no intimate relation. We had so many arguments and fights because we were not having the basic relation. When I saw that he cares about other relations and friendsand they are very important in his life and it does not matter whether I'm present in his life or not. I couldn't take on the ignorance and lack of love from my husband anymore and moved back to my parents. His parents, relatives and friends advised him alot that he should fulfill my rights. After three months my husband contacted me and said that for the sake of his parents he wants me to come back. He'll give me respect and we'll have kids but he doesn't love me. I'm very much confused about my decision. What should I do according to Islamic teachings? At this point it is very difficult for me to trust my husband. Should I take a decision of khula or should I give it another chance?
Q: I am really struggling at the moment to keep my faith. I was born Muslim. I have had lots of issues in my life. The most recent one being that I am training to be a GP. I am at the end of my training but keep failing the last exam. It's odd as I have the knowledge and on the mock test score very high. But always fail by a small margin. This time by 4%. My issue is such, I try and be a good Muslim by praying. I even did the dua ya haseebo 11000 for 3 days before the exam. But still failed. One of my friends told me that she thinks I have some form of black magic done to me to stop me from passing and being successful. This may well be true as I was married before, and this ended and at that time I was told that it was as a result of black magic. It's been over 10 years now and I am married again with 2 children. Happy, but still struggle with even the smallest things in life.
My question is how do I find out if it is true about the black magic and if it is, what do I even do about it. I can see why people may think this, as how can I keep failing an exam I know so well, in a job I do everyday. Please can you advice me, as I feel I am stuck.
I have one last attempt and then I can't be a GP no more, as they only allow a certain attempts at the exam. This will mean I have wasted all these years of my training, and will have to start over again. Which will be very hard for me with 2 young children. Please advice what I can do.
Q: I got married when I was 21, and my husband was 36. When we met he was a non-Muslim, but reverted to Islam a month before we married. We have now been together for 14 years and have 3 Masha'Allah children. When we married, I did not practice Islam, or wear Hijab. About 2 years ago I realised that I had to make a change immediately and started wearing Hijab, making Salaah, and educating myself and my children on Islam. My husband was never interested. He always has an excuse, and has now even stopped going to Friday prayers. This is a huge concern for me as I worry about the example he is setting for our children. Whenever I try to speak to him about this, he laughs and says that I worry about everything. I've asked my father for help but he told me that I need to sort out my own problems. My husband has never had a fulltime job in all the years that we have been together. This means that I have to provide for him and our children (home, food, schools, transport, health, etc.) I earn a decent salary and I am able to provide for them but I'm exhausted all the time. Because when I get home from a full day's work, I still have to cook, see to the children, check that everything is prepared for the next day, clean, etc. There is almost no communication between us as we disagree on almost everything. I need to understand what my options are. I know that divorce is frowned upon, but I don't want to be married to a man who has no interest in Islam, or in me. What should I do?
Q: Would it be wise to marry my first cousin whose sister got divorced but his family sent her back with her ex-husband (who actually orally gave her talaaq 3 times) knowing the ex-husband had given his sister divorce? She is now living with her ex-husband and his family. Thus frustrates me and her brother has asked for my proposal.
Q: Why do we find problems between the spouses in the marriage? At times, the wife is defiant and does not wish to obey the husband and at times, the husband conducts irresponsibly towards his wife?
Q: A daughter is displeased with her father and does not wish to have anything to do with him. The father on the other hand is very upset with the daughter and is also ignoring her. The relationship is getting worse by the day. What can be done to mend the relationship?