Advice

Q: I've been in a relationship with someone for the past five years, the reason we didn't get married earlier was because my mother dissaproved. After a while I lost interest in the young man. Then I met someone new, I love this new person alot, but we had a had some issues and we broke up for a while about four months, so the first guy who had been in the picture earlier asked me if he could marry me so I said okay he could, but a month later the second guy returned back into my life and my heart preferd to be with him, but the other person had already introduced himself to my family.

1. What is the penalty for calling off the engagement with him so I could marry the one my heart is inclined towards?

2. What is the penalty for running away and getting married without my guardians consent, cause I can't tell them about the second person, cause he's not from the same race as I am.

I'd read a question were the answer was that it was shameful to do so, is it just shameful or is there a penalty for doing so with Allah Ta'ala. 

Q: When I pray at the masjid, my father dont like it and always get angry. When I do tabligh work, he gets angry. When I am ready to go for jamat then my father is agaist it. What can I do? Also, when I pray my qiyamul layl at nigth he fights with me. Must I listen to him or can I carry on doing Allah's work? Is there any gunnah if I don't listen to him?

Q: I like one girl and she also likes me but due to family situations we cannot marry now or do nikaah in public but to avoid gunnah of zina we want to do nikaah and when the time is right we will marry insha Allah. Is there any way in shariat that before we meet each other alone in any place before that, can we do nikaah by our own without qazi and witnesses? Can we do nikaah on our own?

Q:I sleep less but my health gets disturbed. Is there any dua I can keep my routine of sleeping less but performing actively.

Q: I want to ask you if my marriage is still valid. Its been 4 years and my husband didnt have any physical relation with me at all. We sleep in the same bed but he doesnt even look at me. He fights almost everyday with me and he shows no interest in me at all. I asked him so many times but he doesnt answer. He doesnt have respect for me. I am living with him only for the sake of my kids. My husband hates me. He doesnt have any medical problem. Please help me.

Q: I am a job holder. I have colleagues and friends on my fb profile. I do like or comment such as looking pretty on my female friends pictures. My wife does hijab. When we go out for lunch in a restaurant I ask her to uncover her mouth to eat but she disagrees and we fight sometimes. Even when we go on a long drive and I ask her to uncover her face she disagrees as well. She is making issues out of these things and wants a talaaq. I do pray five times a day but I watch tv, etc. Adding all these things up, she seeks talaaq. Can you please advise.

Q: I want to marry a boy whom I love and he wants to marry me too but the problem is that his parents do not agree. It feels like they have someone else from their family in mind. We are both helpless Is there anything that we can read to get married?

Q: I am separated from my husband through khula as we both were facing issues in our marriage. I wanted to stay with him but his parents did our istikhaara and said it's not good for us to continue together due to which we had to separate. By any chance, is there any wazifa through which we can reconcile? We are not on talking terms with each other.

Q: My sister in law delivered a stillborn baby at 8 months (32 weeks). They were having the baby after a long time and the whole family is very stressed and depressed due to the incident of the stillborn. I want to ask for a dua to give patience and strength to the family and my sister in law to conceive again.

Q: A man who has two daughters has taken a second wife. His 12 year old daughter is very hurt and affected by this and does not want to speak to her father or have him pick her up or take her to school. He is very angry with her. Whose responsibility is it to mend the relationship? The mother encourages her daughter to have a relationship with her father and also encourages the father to be understanding, but he is now ignoring her. What should the father be doing in this situation?