Advice

Q: My baby has been having seizures since birth. He has brain damage and other complications. Doctors are perplexed by his problems. His brain mri shows damage but not that much. Still his seizures are persisting despite taking 4 medications twice a day. Medical science is not able to say with certitude what is making him having these seizures (infantile spasms). My baby is 16 months, doesn’t move, doesn’t talk, doesn’t swallow properly, no neck control. I am so so down. I cry with Allah everyday for my child.

Q: What do I read for an adult female child that has eloped, made nikah without parents consent and disowned her parents?

Q: I am from Pakistan. I got married in 2017, it was arranged marriage. My parents and my wife's mother and brother did all the meetings and we also met eachother to know about eachother. After marriage my wife got pregnant in the first month and then my family and I got to know that my wife has high blood pressure (clinicaly diagnosed IgA nephropathy in 2015) and she takes daily medicine.

The first 3 months was very hard for her that she could not take medicine because that will affect the child and instead, the doctor advised to take different medicines. After 3 months she traveled to Dubai where her parents are living but on the 6th month our child died inside her due to high blood pressure.

After that I got problems in my family:

1. My parents and sisters ask me and my wife why wife's family didn't told them about this disease?

2. My parents told them that I have asthma before marriage and they do fraud with us by not telling about my wife's disease.

3. My sister told me that my wife's disease will pass through our children and they will never get normal life.

I asked my wife and she told me that this disease is very passive or mild and it never bothered her before so that's why she and her family didn't think about telling me or my family. My parents didn't talked to my wife's parents about this.

We consulted many doctors and they told us that we can have children in future but it will be complicated due to changes in medicine, etc.

My mother is now insisting that I do second marriage and divorce my wife. My mother believes that now we cannot have any children and life cannot be lived without children. My mother told me that she got me married so that she can see my children.

Me and my wife recently moved to Norway because I got a job here. I am happy with my wife and we are living happily. I dont want to marry anyone or divorce her. Now my family belives that my wife and her family helped me to get away from my parents.

I am really confused. What should I do and how to do what is right. I want to make everything normal back again. Please guide me in the light of Islam.

Q: I would like to know the ruling on my husband sitting and talking, discussing random topics with non-mahram women. According to him, he has no bad intentions. We married for 30 years.

Q: There is a girl whom I like very much and when my family met her family, my parents didn't like her family much because they don't follow parda. My parents said they don't like the girl but if I am persistent with the girl they don't have any problem. The girl is pious and committed to deen except that she doesn't wear burqa and wears all modern dresses like t-shirts and jeans. I tried explaining to her about the importance of hijab but she used to get irritated listening to it. I feel I will be able to convince her for hijab and parda in a long-term i.e. if we get married. So my questions are first, should I marry her or not? Second, if I marry her am I disobeying my parents?

Q: Can I meet my fiancé in a restaurant three days before our marriage, with our parents' permission?

Q: I am married. I am not in love with my husband. I dont wish to be with him anymore. I dont want to hurt him but I want to leave him. He has noticed changes in my behaviour and I did mention that I dont want to be with him. He threatens me and I feel forced to be with him. What is the easiest way forward for me?

Q: My husband is falsely accusing me of being faithful. I am heart broken and dont know how to deal with the situation.

Q: My friend had affair with a married girl for 5 to 6 years. Now he wants to leave that bad affair and wants to come on Allah's path and leave all bad habits, but the girl wants him to continue that affair otherwise she will go for suicide. What should he do? Will this be counted as a sin because he is hurting her by breaking their bad affair? What should he do?

Q: Me and my, don’t no what to call him, but we did zina and I got pregnant. We didn’t end up having nikaah. He didn’t want to have it with me still after I had the baby. I’m giving him hints that I want it pure and clean and he does not want to. We are both Muslims, grew up both in Muslim households and I’m just lost. I don’t know what to do.