Rights of servants

Q: I disappointed my father and now I don't know how to get him to look at me with love again, I feel so bad looking at him in that state, what can I do to change this condition?

Q: I want to tell you that my graduation is going to be complete after 15 days, after that I have to move from my native place to Bangalore (India) which is 1435 km away from my native place in search for a job and let me also tell u that in our native land, bhadrak (odisha, India) has no job opportunities so I am bound to migrate to Bangalore.

I am the only son of my parents and my parents are quite old (my father is 73 yrs old and my mother is 60 yrs) and we are financially not sound. The problem is that they can't go with me because of financial problems and my father's health. But they are allowing me and forcing me to go to Bangalore in search of a job and for a better future and they are telling me don't worry about us, Allah is with us. Now, what I will do as my parents are giving me permission and forcing me to move to Bangalore for the sake of job.

So, please tell me what should I do in this situation. I have a fear of Allah that what will I tell him on the day of judgement if Allah asks me why I left my parents alone and went in search job.

Q: My friend hit her terminally ill father in anger,but repented immediately. Later on it seemed that due to the slap it caused severe damage to the brain. She is repenting so much, crying and praying and begging to Allah. She cant get over the guilt, she really loves her father. What she can do now? She is praying a lot and asking for forgiveness. Will Allah forgive her and make her father well again?

Q: I m very disobedient son of my mother, and she stays unhappy with me, i always try to be good and be obedient but sometimes i loose control over myself and do things which she hasnt allowed me. Today i said a deep sorry to her and made a dua for forgiveness as well, i want to be an obedient son, so i can be successful in life and make my mother happy. So what can i do? Is there any special way to keep god control over myself or any wazifa that will make have god control over myself and be obedient.

Q: Among my relatives, here is some ghair muqallids. In the Islamic point of view what should we keep company with them or how should I treat them ? 

Q: In my house, we (me and my siblings) have debated on many issues and this sort of debate is normal for us and it is often how we come to a decision. While debating we tend to raise our voices but this is also normal for us (everyone is our house tends to talk loud). We mean no disrespect to our mom by it. From what I know, my mom does not get offended by this and actively takes part in these debates. Is this sort of a thing a sin or considered disrespecting our parents?

Q: My father and I don't have to good relationship and I want a good relationship with him but I am afraid of him and we don't talk that much. I try my best to practice Islam in every way. Does that make me a bad soul?

Q: I want to know, I was an Athiest for a long period of my life. I have parent issues. I am a mujrim according to Islamic term. I do not have a good understanding with my parents. They have abundent me for some accusational issue. Beside I have some mind health problems. I heard if a child doesn't have a good relationship with his parents then Allah will not accept his duas. What if the the parent is wrong here and the child doesn't have any fault, will Allah understand my circumstances and dilemmas and accept my prayer? Will Allah help me out? 

Q: I have a severe problem. Me and my brother have not been talking to each other for many years. But since I got to know that it is such a great sin, I want to turn back. I have asked forgiveness from him several times. I even tried starting the conversation but he never talks to me and he will never talk. I am stuck. What should I do? He is really determined not to talk to me. How can I seek Allah 's forgiveness?

Q: I am currently undergoing major problems in my home, my husband and I bought a home about 7 months back. He brought his mum to live with us as he is the only son and she is old, he does not want her to live on her own. However bear in mind she is still working in a school and is an independent woman.

There have been many small issues in our house due to the fact that we live together and are in each other's faces daily. She also has a habit of smoking and this is affecting me greatly. Whenever there is an issue, my husband speaks to her about it and she then locks herself up in her room, in a great mood, thereafter gives me the cold shoulder, which then creates a miserable environment to live in.

My husband refuses to accept when his mum is wrong, I am always incorrect and I am disrespectful and I cannot make sabr and overlook her faults. Those are his words generally.

Also every problem is a small one for him. Both him and his mum have emotionally drained me and mentally I cannot take it anymore.

I love my husband but I cannot live this way and he refuses to find her alternate accommodation. I have asked him to do this and I've also told him that he must do whatever needs to be done for his mum, I have done for his mum more than even her own child did for her in the past 3 years that we've been married but no appreciation and care for me comes from her. All they say to me is that I need appreciation for what I do and I always talk about what I do. But they don't realize my worth in the house and take me for granted. I don't know what to do anymore. 

I am currently in my parents home on my own accord. I just want to live on my own with him and I feel that we will have a better relationship all round. He does not want to understand this. Please advise 

That is my wife's argument, my argument is that there are no direct fights from my mothers side. If my mum is upset, she ignores us for some time. My wife gets frustrated and screams at my mother and I. I was under the impression that she helped me look after my mother out of her own will, I did not force her. They both buy each other gifts and go shopping together. I thought it was all good.

Now my wife has left home and says that she will only return if I get my mother a flat that is seperate from us. Not even in the same yard. She doesn't want me to try to extend and make a seperate living space for my mother in the side of our house. I am the only child. How can I kick my mother out? Even if shes not sick, how can I leave her alone knowing that she is old and has diabetes.

My wife gets extremely angry with me and blames my mother and I for all our problems. She has asked for a divorce numerous times. We have been for Islamic counseling. She says that no Maulana can help because I have made up my mind and always take my mothers part. She also wants things to be her way or no way. Her anger is out of control. By going away if there are small problems and the fact that her parents keep her make it as if they control the marriage, we cannot have disagreements, if we do, she will run away and they will keep her... Please advise