Rights of servants

Q: I need guidance that how I should react when my father hurts me and my mother with his rude words. No doubt he has brought me up, gave me education but nver showed affection to me. I am the only child of my parents but he has never pampered me. I only got love from my mother. Now I am 29 years old women unmarried but engaged. My father has a greed for money. My mother is a patient of multiple problems but he never cares for her, rather makes her feel like she is not so good. My mother is a very kind person but my father never appreciates her nor me. Neither he offers prayers. Now my question is when my father crosses limits fights with me, I control my anger but sometimes I say back to him but logically how should I react with him? When he don't talk to me how I should greet him when he don't see towards me because I fear Allah. Please guide me and ease my pain.

Q: If a person is terminally ill and unable to earn for himself, who will be responsible for taking care of him?

Q: In the case where one’s parents have reached old age and are terminally ill, and the children do not wish to look after their aged parents, what should be done? Can the children leave their aged, sickly parents in an old age home?

Q: If a father is sick and incurs medical expenses, who is responsible to bear these expenses?

Q: What should a person do in the situation where he needs to bring his ailing mother into his home so that he can look after her, but his wife is unhappy with this? He has explained to his wife that he will look after his mother and tend to her, yet she is still upset and refuses to speak to him. What does Shari’ah instruct in this situation?

Q: If one’s parents are not bed-ridden, but due to old age or sickness, they are unable to take care of themselves, whose responsibility will it be to look after them and assist them?

Q: Is it permissible for a husband to prevent his wife from visiting her terminally ill parents who live near her home and are in need of her khidmat as there is no one else to make their khidmat? If she goes to make khidmat of her ailing parents against her husband’s instruction, will she be sinful? What does Shari’ah command her to do in such a situation?

Q: It's been almost 6 months that I don't speak to my mother and I need advice.

Q: I am un-happy living at home with the rules that have been implied. Even when I do nothing wrong, I still feel as if they blame me. I do everything in the home for chores helping my parents and errands. I have other siblings as well but the do not help. I am getting emotionally depressed and want to start doing drugs and staying out the house because once coming home I cry most the time. I feel as if my parents don't understand me yet. I try to make them time after time. I have started trying to tell them I am moving out and they react as if I am doing something horrible and hit and yell abuse at me. Everyday it's the same thing. I want to be gone but my family won't let me. Do I leave with out their permission? What do I do? Please help. I am only 20 years old. I do have a friend's house who is willing to let me stay with her as long as I can. I can't focus on my studies any more at all as well. Please help.

Q: Is it permissible in Islam to join the army if your parents are still alive?