Rights of servants

Q: What are the obligations of a child to a parent who has emotionally abused their children and refuses to take responsibility or pay any bills relating to the children and household expenses? If this parent keeps late hours and is difficult to live with, can the children move out or make him move out (with the help of other relatives)? And will my lack of affection toward this parent ( my father) be a sin? I am afraid of him testifying against me on judgment day, but to be honest I feel life would be easier without him in my life. Am I evil for feeling this way? Please advise as I am very distressed about this.

Q: I have a question relating to a child's obligation toward parents. I want to ask question relating to family vacation or social activity. If a wife and husband work jointly to pay for a family vacation and the mum wants to go on holiday as well, I have a question:

1) Can a credit card or credit facility be used to fund the mum's holiday?

2) Can the mum travel without a mahram if she is over 60?

What is the obligation of the son in this regard? Can he politely decline the payment of the holiday due to inadequate funds and also disallow the holiday as no mahram is present? Will the son be punished in the eyes of Allah for doing this? Also what happens when the money one's son gives to a mum on debt and that is being used to buy lavish gifts for the other son and his family? What happens in essence if a mum thinks a child has the financial means and expects all expenses and holidays to be paid for when a child in essence is living on finance?

Q: My question is in Islam is it obligatory for a person to look after his mum or mother in-law?

Q: I'm moving away from parents, due to parents requests. Is that the same as serving them?

Q: I would appreciate your insight into a family concern we are having at the moment. My father (a widower) is getting old, he is 78 years of age and currently lives on his own in a house 80 miles from my 2 sisters and 200 miles from me (the only son). Allahamdollilah over the years he has been in good health and is fully autonomous. But a recent event (a minor heart attack) have made us all question what is the right thing to do. Right now as the son, I am with him for at least a month to ensure he gets his full energy back. Beyond that though we have to think about the future and what is the right thing to do. My own current situation is that only within the last 2 years has my job situation become better (since moving to London). I am 33 and live in London (still single) whereas my father lives in Manchester 200 miles away. My sisters (who are settled with families) on numerous occasions have asked him to move to Birmingham (80 miles from where he lives) but he does not want to move there. The question is, I understand that as the son I have a duty of care to my father, but does that have to be at the expense of my own future? My line of work is not common in Manchester (where my father lives) and any jobs that do exist there are not very well paid. I do not have my own property in London so it is not possible for him to move down and also rent prices are high and he would not be willing to live in London anyway. He wants to stay where he is, does that mean as children we have to adapt our lives to accommodate his wishes?

Q: Seventeen years ago, when I was two years young, parents were divorced, mother took both the sisters and father took me (boy). Now I met them after 17 years. Can I meet my mother, though they are divorcee?

Q: Is it permissible to stay away from family and friends (just attend to their needs when and where required) and not socialize much?

Q: I would like to know if there are any Ahaadith on the rights of grandparents, as today's children say that there is nothing in the Qur'an regarding grandparents, there are only verses regarding parents.

Q: After marriage I realized the duty for parents and the position of amma in Islam. Before marriage and in my adolescent I was careless about giving respect to them and being obedient to them. But now I'm suffering from deep regret. I have told them sorry several times and try to make them happy as much as possible. But Now I left my home to my husband . I live in a different city from my parents. So it is too difficult to take care for them. I can only talk regularly, give them gifts sometimes. But nothing else. I have husband, mother in-law, father in-law, sister in-law and three brother in-laws. As a married girl, if I want to do my duty properly to my husband and in law's house, I can do almost nothing to my parents. But how can I get rid from this sin which have I done in my unmarried life to my parents.

Q: My mother asked me to do one thing which is halaal but my father asked me to do opposite of what my mother is telling me to do. My father's command is also halaal. Whom should I obey? My mother or my father? If I obey my mother my father will be unhappy and if I obey my father my mother will be unhappy.