Rights of parents

Respecting one's mother

Q: My son spent the weekend with us. When he was leaving, he was was rushing so I asked him if he was rushing for an appointment. He said he is taking his wife to the gynae. I asked if she was expecting and he replied No. That night he phoned to say that his daughter wanted to speak to me. Excitedly, she told me that her mummy was having another baby. I phoned my son the next day to ask him if his wife was expecting. To my surprise, he got upset and told me to stop probing. I told him that I am his mother and I will only make dua for him. He spoke to me very harshly and began arguing with me saying that by me asking him questions, his wife is having issues with him. His wife is a very controlling person and my son cannot do anything without her permission.I told my son that I will forward this issue to a mufti as he feels he is right and I am wrong . Kindly give me a solution as to what to do. I am really grieved at my son’s behavior. Jazaka Allah

Respecting one's parents and overlook their shortcomings

Q: I am a divorcee but I gathered my strength to marry again without asking opinion of my parents but they were there for my marriage and became wakil also but this marriage did not last long. Allah knows best even though I looked for deen in the partner but my main problem is my parents abusing me calling me a person of low character because according to them a divorcee shouldn't marry. I work for my livelihood I go out of the house even though I haven't committed any affairs my parents are accusing me of such things and cursing me. This has upset me they attribute bad things happening in my life that I have committed sins and it is wrath of Allah on me. I don't know how to deal with my parents because Allah has ordered for respecting and being dutiful them I want to ask have parents got the right to abuse and curse their children without any proof accuse of sins.

Fulfilling the rights of one's father

Q: We have been married for 42 years. Her father objected and still to this day refuses to speak to me despite me extending my hand many times. He did not attend the weddings of our children even though they went to ask him personally. My wife recently went to meet him against my wishes - she says she has a right because it's her father, is this allowed?

Living separately

Q:

1. What is the ruling on separate living for a married son with his wife from his parents, given that the son is the only male child and the couple had undergone love marriage?

2. To whom are the duties and responsibilities of a married man more, his wife, children or unmarried siblings?

3. If a married daughter is not permitted by her husband to visit her parents provided that her parents dont have a male child, what can she do?

4. For a working married lady whose parents have no male child and source of earning, is she required to give some share of her salary towards parents despite the fact that her husband is not willing to do so?

Respecting one's mother

Q: I have an 83 year old mother... She is terribly anti Deen and this infuriates me so I raise my voice to her and just today I said to her even though she is my mother "an enemy of Allah Ta'ala is an enemy of mine". She speaks the most despicable things about Deen and I dont know how to manage the situation anymore. We do read our Salaat and do all thats required of us as Muslims and its as if she waits for me to stand on my musalla then she performs even more by walking about the house screaming for me. Please advise.