Lost and Stolen items

Returning money one had stolen and items one forgot to return

Q: 

1. How do I return money to someone I stole from. I've made taubah over many years and it's not a big amount (under R600) but I'm embarrassed to tell this person as it's a scholar and it may cause this person to distrust me (and I'm not untrustworthy as it was a genuine mistake that I've truly atoned for) and cause disgrace on my family (who are scholars). How can I return it without him knowing I stole it because I don't even live in the same city anymore and I'd have to give the money to a family member who still resides in his city? Is it possible for me to give out the money in charity on his behalf with no expectation of reward and solely give it in his name? 

2. Also with regards to having old textbooks from over 20 years ago from primary school, I forgot to return and a T-square from high school my principal borrowed me which I forgot to return all those years. How can I make up for that amaanah?

Selling a stolen phone

Q: I bought a phone to sell from someone but when they came to sell it while I'm paying them they say the phone is on contract and they have a way of wiping the name of the person who took the contract off from the database etc. so they don't have to pay etc.

Afterwards I realized it's like stolen so I messaged the person and told him I want to return it but he's now insisting that the contract will be paid for monthly.

What do I do? I sold the phone now, what do I do with the money from it? Is it halal for me to use or must give it away in charity?

Returning an item that does not belong to you

Q: When I was a child I remember one of the neighbours close to us had a garden that from what I remember was quite messy like things were about and one thing there was a tricycle and it looked like the one I had when I was a child and to think at the time I thought someone must have dumped my tricycle there so I took it out.

However I cannot ascertain if it did belong to me and perhaps I took someone’s tricycle, maybe I thought the garden was messy so my tricycle was dumped there.

I believe the family have moved out now and there are new owners of the house. Would I have to approach the current owners to see if they are in contact with the old owners so I can ask the old owners for forgiveness and pay them if that is required of me.

Forgiving someone for stealing money

Q: I'm an 18 year old female and I used to buy lots of personal stuff, for example, an expensive keyboard and mouse, a pair of headphones etc. but I bought these items using the money I stole from my father's wallet without his knowledge and might have stolen some from my mother's purse too. I felt guilty about my deeds later on and I stopped stealing like that and I also told my dad that I stole his money to buy things for myself. He understood the topic and he said he forgave me.

Now first of all, are all the things that I bought using my dads stolen money haraam for me to touch or use ? Even after he forgave me? Do I stop using these stuff? Some of the stuff are actually important for me to use. Do I have to return these goods to my parents? I bought makeup using the stolen money. Do I have to return that to my dad or do I have to pay him the amount that I stole? I estimated it around 600 USD (I didnt steal it in a day of course. It came up to that number day by day). I dont even have a job that I can earn that money and pay him back.

Secondly, the items are (as far as I remember) - a keyboard, a mouse and mouse pad, headphones for gaming, TONS of makeup (like alot), some dresses and accessories, ingredients for making D-I-Y lip balms (like oils and beeswaxes etc.) and empty tin and plastic containers (a LOT of these containers). Do I throw all these items away? Even after I've asked for forgivenesss from my mum and dad?

Thirdly, I also bought some gifts and stationaries with the stolen money from my parents. and the people whom I gave the gifts to, does the items become haraam for them to use and are they unintentionally committing sin because of me? 

Returning stolen money

Q: When I was younger, I was involved in petty crime (theft). Now that I am older, I realise my wrongdoing, and want to know how can I repay this debt.

1. I often took money from my late-parents, without their knowledge. Now that they have passed away, how do I repay this debt?

2. I often took money from my late grandparents, without their knowledge. Now that they have passed away, how do I repay this debt?

3. I often took money from friends, without their knowledge. They are still alive, how do I repay this debt? Do I need to inform them of my transgression?

4. If I took R100, 20 years ago, what amount is due today? Is it the same amount or is there a calculation that I need to perform to allow for inflation?