Women's Issues

Q: How did Islaam free the woman? I know about the whole inheritance thing right to divorce and all that. But I feel that saying Islaam freed the women is wrong because it didn’t free us. Its not freedom when your life and life decisions are controlled with your spouse or men in your family. How is that freedom? Like, I am not talking about the haraam freedom and all that. Sometimes I just wish for peace of mind sitting in a cafe that is 7 minutes away but I am not allowed to go unless my spouse feels like I can? While he can go wherever he wants whenever he wants and I am not even allowed to question him. Honestly speaking, I love my Deen so much but recently men make me get disappointed in some parts of it.

Q: Last year in September, October, November and December a girl bled for 7/8 days and then was spotting brown over the 10th day. The amount of days in between each haidh of hers was 22, 21, 20 days. Her tuhoor habit is 20 days and her haidh habit is 9 days.

1. In December, 10 days after her haidh she began bleeding due to a tablet. She bled for 6/7 days and then was only spotting. She counted her haidh after 20 days had passed i.e. from the 2nd 18:50 to 7th January (5 days). 12 days after that she was seeing brown like how she normally sees at the beginning of her haidh (19th) then on the 14th day (21st) she started bleeding red. So she counted her haid as follows: since she bled for 5 days at the beginning of January (which is less than her habit) and then she bled within the 15 days of tuhoor so she counted 9 days as haidh and then began counting her next haidh cycle from 20 days after the 9 days. Was her calculation correct?

2. In February she was spotting throughout her tuhoor period. So she counted her haidh after 20 days of tuhoor had passed. She started bleeding red 13 days after her last haidh. She counted her haidh after 20 days of tuhoor had passed. She stopped bleeding red on the 1st day of her haidh and was only seeing brown and spotting brown thereafter. She counted her haidh according to her haidh habit. She was spotting brown in the whole month.

3. In March she was spotting brown throughout. She started bleeding red after 21 days of tuhoor. She counted her haidh according to her habit due to the spotting exceeding the 10 days.

4. In April She counted her haidh from after 20 days and only started bleeding red after 24 days of tuhoor. In this month she was also spotting brown.

5. In May she counted her haidh after 20 days and only started bleeding red after 25 days. In this month she was spotting brown throughout as well.

Is her calculations correct for the above?

Also she has had previously confusion with certain masaail and a lot of salaah has been missed due to her not making ghusul at the correct time. Or reading salaah while she is suppose to be in the state of haidh and the opposite. Will she have to make qadhaa for all these salaah? 

Q: I am living alone in Canada. Because of racism here in Canada, do I have to wear hijab or not? I am very scared of the racism. I was wearing hijab before when I was in Dubai, but when I moved to Canada, people always used to tell me not to wear hijab as I am living alone and I will not get a job because of wearing the hijab. I am very confused. Kindly advise.

س: المرأه الحامل اذا سقطت قبل ثلاثه أشهر فهذا دم ليس بدم نفاس وعليها الصوم والصلاة. ولكن إذا سقطت عند ثلاث شهور ونصف او اربع شهور فهذا سقطا ويعد دمها نفاسا. او عند ثمانين يوما يعد نفاسا اي شهرين وعشرين يوم.

Q:

1. Is it permissible for a man to study in a school, college, or university where he is studying alongside a non mahram woman. And is it permissible for a man to teach a non mahram woman and is it permissible for a woman to learn from a non mahram man.

2. Is it permissible for a woman to study in a school, college, or university where she is studying alongside a non mahram man. And is it permissible for a woman to teach a non mahram man and is it permissible for a man to learn from a non mahram woman.

Q: A family member who lives seperately sleeps on my bed sometimes (her husband returns home late at night due to working overtime or night shifts and she is afraid to be home alone at night) my brother who is 15 years and I share the same room, we have our seperated beds. She doesn't observe purdah with my brother even though he is a ghair mahram to her. My question is, will I be sinful for allowing her in my room while my brother is there?

Q: Whilst teaching, is a woman in the state of haidh allowed to practically demonstrate the postures of salaah to other women? (i.e. go into ruku, sujood, etc)?

Q: May I please have advice on the following: I normally get my haidh after approx 23-26 days. It starts with heavy red bleeding. However, on sunday morning (the 15th) there was a lighter brown discharge. I did not count it as haidh and performed salaah for the whole day. On Sunday evening, there was a darker brown discharge that was a bit more in quantity, so I counted that as haidh. On Monday, Tuesday, and today, there is no dark brown discharge but a rather faint light brown. I have not been reading salaah etc. My haidh according to general would have only been due at the end of this weekend or so. This brown was on the 17th clean day which is unusual for me to get so early. I feel like these 3 days have been istihaadha. I am confused whether I should start reading salaah again and not count this, or must I still count this as haidh? When red bleeding starts in may be another few days time, would I count haidh days from this past sunday (15th) or from when the red bleeding starts? Is the light brown before red counted as haidh or not? One of my apas had said that you do not count the brown before the haidh but you count the brown when the haidh is ending. Is this correct?

Q: If a woman wants to go for hajj, and she is worried that she might get her haidh before or during hajj, what is the ruling for her in detail? Can hajj be done during those days? Should she go, not go? If it starts in the middle what should she do?