Q: I am married for 27 years and found out my husband is on chat room. Each time he tells me he is done with it, just to find out that he is still busy with it. He sees nothing wrong with it. I have access to his cell account via his cell and ID no. and I saw some of the disgusting messages. Can you please advise?
Q: Mere shaadi ko 20 saal ho gaye Masha allah. Ghar me deendari acchi hai lekin main shohar ke waja se pareshan hoon. Paanch waqt ke namaaz aur deen ki mehnat me lage hain lekin masala ye hai ke mere rishtedaron ko bilkul pasand nahi karate mere may baap ghar pe aaye to baat nahi karate gussa karate hain sab ke chide rehte hain main deen ki baht baate samjhati hoon leki faayda nahi. Wo khud tabigh se hain. Masala ye hai ki mere parents ki maali halat achichi hai aur 20 saal se haalaton se guzar rahe hain mere parents need mujhe saat bahut diya hai berozgari ke waqt 10-12 saal tak mere poore family ki dekhbhal ki hai aaj bhi hamare liye karte hain lekin mere shohar dil saqt hua hai kisi ke aane per surat banate hain is liye hum dono me ladai hoti hai main samjhati hoon mehmannawazi ke baare me phir bhi koi faayda nahi allah ke hukum se mere liye koi hal batayiye main namaz ke alawa bahut kuch padhti hoon qarz ki adaigi ki dua sura tauba ke aaqri aayton ka wird dilon ko jodne wali dua aur bhi kuch hamesha padhti hoon phir 20 saal se mere pareshaniyaan khatm nahi hoti main koi bhi baat mere shohar ko hadees ke hawale se samjhati hoon phir bhi faayda nahi 20 saal se main bahut saare qurbaniya dee hai jo sirf allah hi jaanta hai ab mujh se bardasht nahi hota waise mera beta 18saal ka beti 14 ki hai main 36 aur mere shohar 50+ ke hain ab in tension ki waja se beemar hoon mere liye koi hal batayiye allah se madad ka zariya baniye mufti sahab na meri duniya bani hai na aakirat.
Q: I would like to ask a question regarding faskh. I have been married to my husband close to four years now and out of the four years we spent 6 month together. I wanted us to be a family and live together. I have been asking him for us to be a family but he keep saying it is not the right time. In the end I said, if it is not the right time to have a family for you then maybe we should end it and you find a sister when you ready. That got me a phone ban. Basically he stopped calling and refused to answer his phone. At this point I went to visit where he lives. Which is in another continent. I ended up there called him and he said you are not here for me. I did not ask you to come. I have been there for 3 weeks trying with no avail. Now he is refusing to pick up my phone and it is one year since I went to visit and he refuses still to talk to me. I would like to go for a faskh but I do not want to do anything unislamic. What us your take on this?
Q: I have been suffering from depression because of guilt for the past 2 years. Now I am married but the marriage has always been rocky with abuse of all kinds. I started a job but did an unthinkable mistake. I got involved with someone but I ended it because I knew it was wrong. My husband found out because I didn't want to go in with the relationship. My husband found every possible way to humiliate me in public with friends family. He even went to the nearest musjid. I asked Allah Ta'ala for forgiveness, pleaded day and night. I asked my husband to forgive me. I came back home but he still didn't stop the abuse and he picks on me almost all the time. I am starting to suffer from depression and feel like taking my life. Please advise me.
Q: I am a married woman 24 years old. My husband is abroad and due to passport and visa issues, I have to wait till I get over there. I pray salah five times. Now for the time being I masturbate secretly without the knowledge of my husband. I am justified. I can't fast as I have health issues.
Q: Mera masla mere husband se related hai. Hamari shaadi ko do saal hogaye hain, mai unse boht mohabbat karti hun lekin ab tak wo understanding nahi hui. Wajah ye hai ki mai boht deendar family se belong karti hun jahan parde ka aur allah ke tamam ehkam ka aehtimam kia jata hai lekin mere sasural uske baraks hai shohar ek multinational company me job karte hain jahan ladke aur ladkiyon me koi farq nahi hai aaye din party disco trips waghaira chalte hi rehte hain.. Mai unhe samjhati hun lekin wo kehte hain ki wo kisi ke liye change nahi ho sakte mujhe aise hi accept karna hoga. Sasural me namaz ki pabandi nahi hai mai pregnant hun mai chahti hun meri aulad deendar ho aur mere shohar ko b hidayat miley.. Baraye meherbani is masle ka hal bataden aur koi dua ya wazifa bhi.
Q: I am currently in the following scenario. I gave birth to twins in march 2015. My mother in-law was very sweet till I delivered but later on she was unable to accept the responsibility of handling the kids as I delivered through c section. She called up my mom and asked her to manage kids while she'll manage the rest of the home (authoritatively; important to mention here is that she stays in pakistan and had come to dubai for my delivery). She had a strong spell on her son (my husband) during these days. My relationship with my husband was badly ruined. He start acting the same way with me as my mother in law did. She was harsh after my delivery and had lots of complains with me though the past 4 years of my marriage I was the best daughter in law. Due to her this attitude she made my mom suffer in a cold way during all her stay in dubai. Though my mom was here to help her on her call. It didn't stop here 5 months after my delivery when we went to Pakistan for eid, she insulted and disgraced me for a 3rd person's sake. This person is out of our family and doesn't respect me. I just told her I want to avoid that lady and she started the issue with me. I have been feeling left out since I delivered. This was the time I needed more support psychologically and I was given none. My husband's opinion also changed about me because his mother didn't like me. He too started to have fits of dislike for me on almost all occassions. He started judging me through his mom's eyes though we had had a love marriage. I don't know where has all the love gone now. I had a maid for around 7 months to help me with the house chores while I look after the kids. Changed many but they didn't turn out to be cooperative as they were old ladies and wanted to govern their way, trying to become a mother figure. By 7 months I decided ill manage the house and kids both on my own. My husband doesn't want to help me with the kids and would always say you should hire a maid. Is he fair in saying so when I don't have the peace of mind with maids? Plus aren't the kids supposed to get some time from there father or don't i feel good when he just sits with them for an hour or so keeping in mind that even when he's with them its me who attends to all the needs of my kids. He just keeps an eye and I try to do the laundry or some other household stuff meanwhile. In all these circumstances what do you advise for me plus what should my husband do.
Q: Me and my husband always argue and he swears me and tells me to get out of the house. Please give me a dua which I can recite on him to soften his heart and for him to love me.
Q: I would like to go for a fasagh. As I am not happy and is afraid of my husband. He hurts me emotionally and physically. I am his second wife and most of the time he is with his first wife. We share a son together and he hardly has time for him. He has four other kids from his first wife and spends more time with them which hurts me as I can see the yearning in my sons eyes to spend time with his father as he is only three. I have embraced Islam almost 4 years ago and I have too google my religion as my husband does not salaah or even teaches my son. I don't know what more. He has never lifted his hands to me before but ever since he went on drug with the first wife he treats me and my son crap and hurts me. What can I do. I need help desperately. I have never went to the hospital or logged a case against him. I work and he sits at home.
Q: If husband doesn't pray and wife gets angry for that time and doesn't want to talk to her husband, is this allowed?