Q: Mujhe ap se inthai aham aur nazok masla pocha ha.main auk sarkari molazim hon.mahwar tankhow 20000 ha meri shadi ko 10 sal ho choke hain mere 2 bache bi hain Allaha ka shokor ah azwagi zindgi bahot achi gozar rahe ha.
Lakin masla ye ha kh mere parents khas tor pe waldha ki waja se meri azwaji zindgi aur zahini pereshani had se zinda rahe ha. main janta hon kh waldha ka maqam bahot se bi bahot zidha ha.is waja se in 10 salaon main main ne 1 lafz bi nahe kaha balkh momlat ko dorost aur waldha ko khosh karne k chakar main bahot dafa apni wife pe hath uthaya ha. Ab masla ye ha kh mere chote bhai ki shadi ho choki ha to mujh se chota bhai sakht mizaj ka ha,meri walda os k sath thik ha,os ki wife k sath be had se zida thik ha,lakin meri wife k sath her bat pe zid mere sath her bat pe larai.For example meri beti aur meri sister ki umer main taqriban 4 sal ka farqho ga taqriban 6 ki meri beti and my sister is 10 years old.meri pori koshish hoti ha kh jo chiz apni beit k lie lon wahe sister k lie bi but meri tankhwo intin nahe kah main bahot zida khrcha kar sakon pher bi koshsh hot ha..lakin ager kabi meri wife meri beti k lie kuch le le to bus jahgra shoro kh tumhri wife ne to apni marzi ki meri biti k lie kun nahe lai.and mera sara din is kam main gozar jata ha kaha waldha naraz na hon.lakin pher bi wo khsh nahe main kua karon.main ye soch soch k zahni mariz hota ja rah hon kh main hamesha se khd se apni wife se apni sister aur brothers aur waldha ko tarjhe di.pher mere sathe he esa salok kun ager adat ha meri walda ki to mere sathe he kun bhi k sath to thik on ko kuch nahe kahti balkah on ki chota se chota kam bi khod karti hain on ki wife ka on ka.aur mere sath nagaive behavour kun.Main khoda k khof se pher mafi mangta hon wo pher is taraha karti han mere 10 sal is tarha gozar ge ab main ahsaass e mahromi wali kafet se gozar raha hon na gor apni biwi bachon ko attention de pa raha hon na kuch.Mujhe kua karna chahe please mujhe raste btye main bahot taklife main hon.walda ki waja se apne wife apne bachon ka haq na mar jaon aur apni biwi aur bachon ki waja se waldin ka na haq mar joan. jabhkha meri wife auk parhe likhi khaton hain aur bahot coprative hain.main ne bahot sari urton se bahot acha paya ha ose.mere aur mere parnts k sath mokhlis ha wo bi main kua karon.Jabkha mere wald sahb ki pay 42000 ha aur mere parents mashallaha sahitmand hain.
A: Biwi ko kuch dena ho to walidah ke saamne ne de aur walidah ko ye kahe ke tumhaara nigaah me woh sub se ziyaadah pyaari aur achchi he lekin ye biwi ke saamne ne kahe.
And Allah Ta'ala (الله تعالى) knows best.
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