Q: I have been married for less than 6 months and will be having the rukhsati (reception) very soon, probably in a month. My wife and I go out occasionally and sometimes I drop her at work. We hold hands while I drive her to work. Is this wrong? We also cuddle at times. Is this wrong? We kissed few times. Was this wrong? What I mean by wrong was it inappropriate since the valima is yet to happen however I have not consummated her nor do I intend to until the reception is done in shaa allah but just have my concerns since I don't want to do anything wrong. Your advise will be much appreciated as the local muftis told me something about tanhai that if tanhai happened then I have to do valima with in 3 days. I am kinda scared and I don't get the point of tanhai. Also for your information we did have a small ceremony to inform that I have completed the wedding rituals. does this help?
A: Once the nikaah is performed, the boy and girl are halaal for each other. There is no restrictions whatsoever of any sort. The ruksati can take place at any time as it is based on convenience and ease. The ruksati taking place at an earlier or later time will not affect the nikaah in any way. However, it will be better if the ruksati is not delayed so that the husband and wife can begin living together and the purpose and function of nikaah can be fulfilled.
Walimah is a Mubaarak Sunnah of Rasulullah (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) which takes place after the nikaah is consummated. The sunnah of walimah remains till the third day after the nikaah is consummated. It is not necessary for one to invite many people. If a person invites a few people to his home and feeds them with the intention of walimah, the sunnah of walimah will be fulfilled.
And Allah Ta'ala (الله تعالى) knows best.
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