Marrying a non-Muslim

Q: The woman I love is non-Muslim. I don't use the word love lightly. I understand my love for Allah Ta'ala is greater. But I have not found it in me to marry anyone else.

I have been presented with many opportunities to marry a Muslim woman however my heart hasn't allowed me to do it and I don't think it's fair to marry someone without giving her my all.

I have spent the last 4+ years wrestling with my emotions and turning to Allah Ta'ala for guidance and I am at the end of my rope.

I know I can't ask the woman to convert to Islam just to marry me as that would not fulfill the requirements. I can't find it in me to marry anyone else and in doing so I feel I will not be commited to the relationship (I don't mean I will be unfaithful in any way). What should I do?

A: End all your dreams and fantasies and marry a woman who will help you and lead you to Jannat and grant you children who will be the coolness of your eyes. Don't just follow fantasies and dreams. Life is short and when you come at the end of the rope then only your eyes will open and you will realise the folly and loss you incurred. Hence, marry a woman who is righteous. She will encourage you and make you practise as well thereby leading you to Jannah. Once you are there you will have all your heart desires and in fact more than what you can imagine.

And Allah Ta'ala (الله تعالى) knows best.


Answered by:

Mufti Ebrahim Salejee (Isipingo Beach)