Cheating on one's fiancée

Q: I have been in a relationship with this girl for years. In the past she betrayed me, lied to many times but eventually within time she changed and I decided to get engaged. We did get engaged and after the engagement I keet remembering what she did to me in the past and I can't forget all that she lied to me saying that her parents are dead. But within time she changed alot and for 4 years she didn't lie to me at all.

Now I started cheating on her and then I fell in love with a girl and all of sudden I stopped everything, talking to girls and all other things. I really want to get married to this girl and not my finace. I asked her to break up with me as in the future I might not be a good husband but she keeps repeating the same thing that shes not going to live without me and cries asking me to fix things.

Even if I fix things up, I I know I can never love her and make her happy. This new girl understands me very well and shes my childhood family friend and we always shared a very good understanding and trying to think of a halaal way to get together as in getting married.

A: Immediately break up this haraam relationship and sincerely make tawbah and repent to Allah Ta’ala for getting involved in this sin. Make a firm resolve that you will not return to this haraam relationship in the future.

Just as you have negative feelings and thoughts in your heart regarding the girl you are currently engaged with for her past, you yourself are involved in the same type of sins.

You need to make up your mind with whom you wish to get married. You cannot get married to the girl who you are engaged to and also continue this haraam relationship with this girl.

And Allah Ta'ala (الله تعالى) knows best.


Answered by:

Mufti Zakaria Makada

Checked & Approved:

Mufti Ebrahim Salejee (Isipingo Beach)