Q: I used to talk to a girl online. She ended everything with me, and I was quite hurt by that. I didn't feel like doing anything. During this time, I developed a healthy bond with Allah (Alhamdulillah). I still like her. I pray to Allah for her.
Firstly, please tell me if it would be appropriate for me to like her in this scenario? And can I pray to Allah for her? My intentions are completely pure, with the sole aim of marriage, and my resolve is firm. Indeed, Allah knows the best of intentions.
Can I ask her through chat if she would marry me or not? Actually, she is angry with me over something, and if I ask her parents without talking to her first, she will obviously refuse. Can I, while avoiding immoralities and staying within boundaries, try to convince her through chat, considering that there is no concern of seclusion or privacy in this case? For sure, after this, I won’t maintain any contact with her.
I have a strong desire for this with all pure and clear intentions. I want to convince her on my own. But if I can’t, should I tell my sister to speak to her on my behalf?
Apart from this, I have created an Instagram account with the aim of spreading knowledge about religion and inviting others to Islam. I want her to come towards Allah as well. So, can I invite her for this purpose and share Islamic content with her?
**Being very honest, you may find this strange, but I am grateful to Allah for His help and for connecting me with Him. My intentions are completely pure, and I truly want this. Can I do this while staying within the limits and etiquettes of Islam? Please guide me well and also give me your advice on what I should do.
A: These feelings of love which you have for her in your heart is haraam. You should make sincere tawbah to Allah Ta'ala for entertaining these haraam feelings in your heart for her. These haraam feelings thereafter lead a person to fantasize over the haraam and fall into even more sins. May Allah Ta'ala forbid.
If you wish to marry her, then get some of your family members to speak to her parents and send a proposal for her in a respectable way.
And Allah Ta'ala (الله تعالى) knows best.
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