Q: I would like some guidance, recently a boy came to see my 18 year old daughter. The boy seems to be interested but my daughter says that she does not feel positive towards it. Her main concern is that he said that he expects her to speak to his brother and brother in law. She has been in niqab since becoming baligh and is not happy about this.
Other than this, he comes from a good deeni, tableeghi family; he has good akhlaaq and ticks all the other boxes. Should I encourage her to seriously consider the proposal or should I let it go?
A: Her concerns are valid. When before nikaah he is putting this condition that he expects her to speak to his brother and brother in law who are non-mahrams to her, and this is against shariah, then how can you consider this boy to be a person who has good deeni morals and values?
When he does not uphold these fundamental laws of deen (purdah, etc.) in his life, then what guarantee do you have that he will not cause her to compromise in other aspects of her deeni and worldly life. Therefore, do not force her to get married to him.
And Allah Ta'ala (الله تعالى) knows best.
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