Reprimanding one's children and having prolonged ambitions

Q: 

1. I am a mother and I sometimes feel I have done injustice, zulm etc when I try to resolve my young sons fighting issues(5,7 yrs old) shd I apologise to the kids or only do Tauba?
2. Secondly I headed that it is wrong to have prolonged ambitions (Aarzoon ka lamba Hona) does this mean we cannot plan ahead our kids futures or carreer planning or saving for our kids marriages etc. please explain?

A: 

1. Make taubah and show some kindness to compensate for your harshness.
2. There is nothing wrong in planning, but after planning assign the affair to Allah Ta`ala completely having in mind that though we would like this for our children but we assign it to Allah Ta`ala. Hence, if anything goes against the plan we are happy with the decision of Allah Ta`ala.

And Allah Ta'ala (الله تعالى) knows best.

Answered by:

Mufti Ebrahim Salejee (Isipingo Beach)