Taking pleasure from one's wife while she is asleep

Q:

1. Is it permissible to use one's wife's body to derive sexual satisfaction, whilst she is asleep and therefore unaware?

2. I derived sexual pleasure in such a manner and thought to myself:

   • What if this is wrong

   • It's unlikely to be wrong and even if Islamically impermissible, who cares as it feels good doing this potentially impermissible act and that's the main thing. Its surely not the same as masturbation and hence I am continuing, which I did. I also thought what else am I supposed to do to satisfy my desires.  Would this be kufr?

A: Yes. It is permissible.

نِسَاؤُكُمْ حَرْثٌ لَّكُمْ فَأْتُوا حَرْثَكُمْ أَنَّىٰ شِئْتُمْ وَقَدِّمُوا لِأَنفُسِكُمْ وَاتَّقُوا اللَّـهَ وَاعْلَمُوا أَنَّكُم مُّلَاقُوهُ وَبَشِّرِ الْمُؤْمِنِينَ ﴿البقرة: ٢٢٣﴾

وهو تحقيق وجيه لأنه يجوز له أن يلمس بجميع بدنه حتى بذكره جميع بدنها إلا ما تحت الإزار فكذا هي لها أن تلمس بجميع بدنها إلا ما تحت الإزار جميع بدنه حتى ذكره (رد المحتار 1/293)

Answered by:

Mufti Ebrahim Salejee (Isipingo Beach)