Q: I really like someone. Intially when I introduced him at home everyone agreed and our wedding date was all fixed. There was a delay of six months in our marriage and since we used to see each other frequently and to stay away from gunah we got our nikkah done in a gathering of our close friends in a mosque. None of our family members were part of our nikkah. Later we came back to pakistan so we can officially get married. My finance had a robbery at there home and he requested my dad to help him if he can and it will be a loan on him he has an investment back in canada and will return the money. On the other hand my dad took it in a way that he had demanded money and didn't
even let him explain not even once and broke the marriage 10 days before the wedding. After that my dad used his resources to shut him and his family up and wants me to marry some one else. Now some people are saying that our nikkah is not valid because there was no wali in that nikah. I know I should have not done the nikah but I really want to stay with him and I am quiet because I know my father will never ever agree on this. He even said that even if I take a stand he would not agree and he was against this marriage since day one but was not showing it to me because I wanted it. Can you please shed some light on this matter and help me in this regard?

Q: Is it correct for someone to continuously feed guests even though he is in debt? He quotes “the guest brings his own rizq and leaves with the sins of the hosts forgiven.” Please advise.

Q: I was using mouth wash for longtime but never realize that it has 20% of alcohol in it so the question is: Is it permissible to use mouth wash even if it contains alcohol (because we are using it as medicine)? If I don't use it then I start getting bad breath so I have to do something. Please tell me what to do?

Q:

1. My wife is pregnant so she goes for ultrasound every month (because there is a little problem with pregnancy so doctors want to keep there eyes on it). Every time we go for ultrasound the dr ask us if we know the gender of the baby but I always tell them we don't want to know because this is blessing from Allah so boy or girl doesn't make a different as long as it's healthy but now somebody told my wife that it is ok to know the gender before birth so now she want's to know it which I totally don't agree. Please tell me if it permissible in Islam or not because it's a blessing from Allah?
2. Once one find out that she's pregnant then until what time they can share the bed or we should stop as soon we find out what does Islam says about these two things please tell us?

Q: When playing sports to keep fit e.g squash or soccer etc, is it permissible to wear 3/4 shorts and tshirt, or must one wear a short kurtha?

Q: On Bakri eid we find that many people who usually wear kurthas and sunnat libaas leave the sunnat clothing and wear 3/4 shorts and tshirt, with the excuse that we cannot make Qurbani /work with a kurtha on. Do we find this in the life of Nabi Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam that he would wear different clothes when doing messy work etc or should one stick to wearing the kurtha when doing hard work etc?

Q: I wanted to ask I often backbite about my father and so I understand I give away my good deeds. My question is if I ask forgiveness and he forgives me will I get my good deeds back or not?

Q: I have to get mandatory insurance for medicine from my work place. Due to this I have the minimum amount. I have used it once it saved me 100$ on medicine. Allhumdulilah I have not needed it again. My mom is a Diabetic, she pays a lot of money close to 150$ For her pills. I will save her close to 80% if I put her on my mandatory health insurance at work. I wanted to know if it's allowed. I probably will have to pay a bit more every month by 1 to 2 dollars not worried about that. Just wanted to know if it's permissible?

Q:

1. A person in the state of Wudhu drinks some juice/fizzy drink/tea/coffee etc. Is it necessary to gargle the mouth before performing Salaah?
2. A person in the state of Wudhu chews some bubblegum and thereafter spits it out. The taste still lingers in the mouth.Is it  necessary to gargle the mouth before performing Salaah? The bubblegum was chewed in order to remove odour from the mouth.

Q: I am very sad and broken at heart. The case is: My father were 5 siblings, 4 brother and 1 sister. After the death of my grandfather, my father's eldest brother took over the factory which was our family business and he claimed that none has the right over the factory except for himself. Since then my father and his other 2 brothers lived a hard life with all source of income cut off and they are struggling till now. Now
that the eldest brother who took over the factory is dead, his wife runs the factory and she claims the rest of the property that is the house in which we are living in is her husband's. Due to all this there is a constant tension in our house. The daughters of this women abused my parents very badly and insulted them. Since then my heart for them has become very hard for them, still I try to maintain the ties in fear of Allah, but this women continuously keeps on saying something or taunts us or she does something or the other to hurt us or pick up a fight. Many a times we ignore but at times it becomes very difficult to keep sabr. In this case what should we do? Being good to them becomes so difficult because of their behaviour. Even if we be good to them, they at times do something which hurts us so bad in the heart. What should we do in this case? Please advice me because I feel so sad and broken in my heart to see such condition in my house. What does Allah command in such a case? Please pray that our family problem is solved and Allah gives us sabr and peace at home.