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Step parents preventing one from speaking to one's biological father

Q: I have an issue which is causing me a lot of distress and sadness. I recently have got in touch with my biological father who I have not known for 25 years because my step father has been trying to stop me from finding out about my real dad. Now I speak to my father regularly on the phone as he lives abroad. However my step mother tells my real dad to cut the calls of early, she tries to keep him away from me and does not want me to have a relationship with. As she does not have any of her own children and is feeling insecure. I do understand this but I feel stressed because I feel she is going to take my dad away from me. I have voiced my concerns to my dad but he has assurred me that she is not going to be a problem. She even told me 4 times to not focus on my dad and that I should focus on my stepfather. I just dont know what to do and I feel my emotions get the better of me. I try to make an effort with her but she wants to keep my dad away. My step father does not want anything to do with me if I see my real dad. I'm confused why should I have to satisfy my step parents. I want a relationship with my dad. Am I not allowed that. How do I deal with this? I just want to get to know my dad without them causing problems.

Problems with step-mother

Q: My parents were separated when I was two  and divorced when I was 10. Now I live with my father and his 2nd wife. Relationship between her and me is not stable since her entry in the house. She always says something objectionable about me to father and father doesn't investigates. She ruined my character in front of him and my neighbours. Every time hates me. Does anything to distract me from studies, and I am preparing for medical. But she always disturbs me. What shall I do? I complain to father. She puts the blame on me. Anyhow..! What is the solution..? I am not able to tolerate these things anymore.

Viewing one's father having relations with one's step mother

Q: I was about 17 18 years old and I saw my dad and step mum having sex, well they were not actually having sex my step mum was holding my dad private part penis and it was erected and I can't remember exactly if I have seen the whole things or part but I saw it and can't remember exactly. Now I just looked and moved away. I didn't have no feelings, no lust, no desire for my dad I just peeped through and look through a small hole. I didn't have no desire or lust for my dad. I just look but after I felt little discharge because when you see stuff like that naturally your body release that liquid but I didn't have lust. Even when I see couple kissing or romancing I get that discharge. Actually when I was looking, I was frightened and I felt bad and my heart was beating fast and I was scared. I didn't have any lustful feelings for him. I just looked. I was not married and I am not sure if I was engaged. Is my dad's nikaah valid with my step mum?

Showhar ke wafaat ke ba'd showhar ke bete ke saat rehna

Q: Maira swal he h mairay dost ka walid foat ho gay hain. Mairay dost ke mother bhi foat ho gaye hain. Un ke walid ne 2nd marriage ke h jis say shadi ke h us ke pehly khawand say aik beati he. Main ye pouchna chata hn k kia ab mairay dost ke walid ke wafat ke baad un ke wife ka ghar main rehna apni beati ke sath sharae he ya nahe. Que ke jin ke sath rishta tha wo foat ho gy hain to mairay khayal say wo orat aur us ke beati baki ghar walo k leye giar-mehram hain. Beati ke age 20 saal he.