Masaail pertaining to the Wali and Compatibility between spouses

Choosing a daughter in law

Q: My son is 20 years old and wants to get married. We know that we should not stop him. The girl however is not of good character. On the one hand we are taught to choose a spouse of good character and on the other hand we are taught to forgive and assist with reformation of character. Which takes presidence? Do we allow and guide her or do we say no to the marriage?

Girl marrying without her parents consent

Q: Can a Muslim girl marry a Muslim boy without her parents consent? They like each otherand both of them study in a well-known varsity. Both of them are aware of their future but their parents will not allow them to marry now because both of them are not established. Recently they got involved in some sort of physical relationship that they cannot resist. So they want to be married to get rid of the sin. Can they marry now if they want to without their parents consent?

Marrying someone who watches TV

Q: If an Aalimah who wears full niqab and does not intermingle with men or watch tv movies etc. gets a proposal from a doctor whos a hafiz, which means he probably does khalwat with women and he watches football, would you even tell the Aalimah to consider him? He is praised for his akhlaaq. He also visits a female dentist.

Should the Aalimah even consider him. She has hope of doing amr bil maroof but fears marriage problems thereafter. Her grandfather (Allah enlighten his qabr) was a Shaikhul Hadeeth.

Marrying a sunni biddati boy

Q: I am 23 yrs old female. I have recently met a guy through a mutual friend who is 7 yrs elder to me. We have met only once and he told me he has a liking towards me and would like to talk to my parents regarding marriage. We know each other since 3 months and I find him perfect. Off lately,he told me that he is a sunni and he would want me to be a sunni Muslim and indulge in all the activities like niyaz and fatihah since it's the family tradition. I am very confused regarding this.