Various masaail of Nikaah

Q: I am 30 years old and unemployed. I decided to stay unmarried my whole life. Is it allowed in Islam? Are there any losses to be unmarried and what are the benefits to be married?

Q: I would like to know if I can speak to my wife by implanting thoughts in her mind to love me without her realizing this consciously to improve my marriage. These techniques are taught in NLP Neuro-linguistic programming which teaches people how to use language to influence others by saying a sentence in a way where you are telling the mind what to do. For example, instead of saying you should love me, I said to her you can feel yourself loving me more and more now. Is this permissible for me to do?

Q: Is it permissible to get a nikaah and get to know the person? A term called halaal dating?

Q: If a husband wife don't have sex for 5-6 months or more after their child was born, will it affect their nikaah in any way? They eat and sleep together and they both are happy with only one child. Somebody said that if they don't have sex for a long time it will affect their nikaah.

Q: Are women like slaves of their husband in Islam? I have come across some writings where some quotations were mentioned supporting this. One quotation was on Umar (radhiyallahu anhu). It was something that women are like slaves of their husbands. So be careful whom you are giving your daugter to as a slave. Is it true?

In many places I have read that the hoors are getting angry on a wife who is upsetting the husband or disobeying him and they curse the wife. Are these all true? Are all women born slaves of men? 

Q: I want to know why is it that men in Islam can marry more than one woman and have sex with these multiple women but a woman cannot have multiple relationships?

Q: My question is about ilaa. If a couple is married and rukhsati is not done yet and is due after 5 months and the husband says to wife that he will consummate after rukhsati which is after five months. But the husband does not take any oath just say that he will not do consummation untill rukhsati. Is it ilaa ? Husband and wife have met once after nikah but are still virgin.

Q: I would like to know if its permissible for me and my kids to stay over at my dads home.

When we go over, we are catered to halaal food and we are allowed to practice our religion and they don't force us against our beliefs, alhumdulillah.

When we didnt have any job, I was allowed to stay over at my parents home for 6 months. Now that we are living on our own, my in laws feel that it's not right for me to stay at my parents home.

I need clarification as I feel hurt because how can it be not right to stay for 2 weeks there but it's ok to stay 6 months there when my husband didnt have a job. 

Q: If a Muslim man and woman get married according to Islamic law , then afterwards by the urging of the husband and the non Muslim family members, they perform a second marriage ceremony under Christian laws at a church ,where does this leave them according to islam?. Are they still lawfully married ? , and are they still Muslim?