Hurmat-e-Musaaharah

Arm wrestling with non mahrams

Q: About 7–8 years ago, when I was newly married (around 1 year of marriage), my husband suggested we do arm-wrestling for fun. With his permission, I also did arm-wrestling with his four brothers. At that time, I did not feel any lust or desire from my side at all. 

I noticed that the brothers looked a bit excited, which could have been because they had never held a woman’s hand before but now I am worried. What if they might have felt lust at that time, 1 of them asked for a re match even though I lost from all of them but I said no 1 time is enough now I cannot ask them directly as it would be very embarrassing and it was almost a decade ago. Now I do proper hijab and cover my face too. 

My question is: Does this cause hurmat-e-musaharat, and is my nikah still valid? 

I also suffer from waswas (intrusive doubts) in religious matters, so I want clarity and peace of mind.

Hurmat-e-musaaharah not being established by touching one's grandmother or uncle's wife

Q: 

1. If a man touches his maternal grandmother with lust, does the marriage of his mother with his father break? 

2. If a man touches his paternal uncle’s wife (Chacha’s wife) with lust, does his paternal uncle’s marriage break? 

I am dealing with a lot of thoughts about hurmat musahara.

Marrying a girl after committing zina with her mother

Q: I have committed zina with my fiancé's mother mistakenly. She is my mother’s sister and I repent to Allah and ask forgiveness for my mistake. Nobody knows about this except ﷲ and us . I’m very nervous that if I do nikah with her daughter then the nikah will be valid or not and if I have children with her daughter.

I don’t understand what to do and currently it’s highly impossible to step back for marrying her daughter because if I try to step back there will be a big problem. Please bring out a solution for me. I love my fiancé very much and I can’t leave her. 

Hurmat-e-musaaharah between males

Q: Does hurmat mushaharah become established if a person hugs his father but he has strange feelings in his private part. He was scared during the event and did not get a full erection, however he is not sure about any minor movements that he did not notice. But he thinks that the minor movements (very small movements) were because of nervousness. He did not get any sexual thoughts. He was also a little bit scared during the event.

Hurmat-e-musaaharah

Q: I have some questions about hurmat musaharah.

1. Is it established between a mother and daughter?

2. Is it established if one has wet dreams about incest or a sexual dream that has mahrams?

3. Is hurmat cancelled if parents remarry and sincere repentance is made? 

4. Lust is a strong sexual desire. If I don't feel a strong desire but I feel some type of lustful feeling that I try my best to control inside my heart at the time of touching, is this hurmat musaharah?