Q: If a non Muslim asks us how can we just marry someone we don't know, like without speaking to the person or only seeing them once and then deciding that's the person you want to spend your life with, whats a good answer to give?
Q: I have been feeling very low on imaan lately. I have been praying for something very specific for the last 3 years but it is not getting fulfilled. No doubt Allah knows best and has the best for us in store but one question that keeps me anxious all day is that, what have I done to earn the annoyance of Allah and not even get one namaz, surah or even a sujood accepted that I have been praying for that purpose.
Q: Can we shift our house to a street were there is a temple?
Q: I received this message and wanted to comment back to help him correct what needs to be corrected, but I wanted some guidance on how to respond.
"True... But Muslim social norms today mean women do not interact with men therefore they do not know whom they want to marry... In the time of the Prophet and Sahabi there was much more interaction. Indeed women would pray behind men. Therefore women knew who they were marrying... We have messed up the system. In our system (not Islamic. Just ultra conservative) women are forced to marry who their parents want them to... Those marriages are technically nil and void. Woman can walk away and say I'm technically not married. Furthermore we have created huge stigma on divorce... even though this was recorded and documented all the way back to Ismail A.S. it should be so easy for a divorcee to get re married but our messed up system rejects them unfortunately... Sad"
Q: What is the reason if we desperately pray a lot for a job or something else and when we finally get it, its bad/unenjoyable? Do we have to think that maybe this happened because Allah is testing us? Or are we being punished?
Can you help me figure out how to perceive Allah when I’m struggling? Like if I’m praying for a job opportunity, or something else, and nothing is going my way?
I know I have to remember that Allah is the Provider of Rizq and that He always wants the best for us. But what if I don’t know if what I’m receiving (rejections/sadness) is due to a trial or if its a punishment?
Q: My parents are separated. My dad keeps insisting that I go to this party at his house with his family but I dont want to. He still insists. My mum doesn't want me going to his house anyway. Am I allowed to decline?
Q: How can one obtain the blessing of firasah?
Q: An elderly Hafez offered me a job over the phone. However, his first task for me was to work on a website with haraam pictures, which he emailed to me. I replied with a very polite and respectful email asking him to please excuse me from this website owing to the animate images. It is now a month later and he has not even responded. I am feeling sad as I felt that at least I will have a halaal job working for a Muslim with a kurtah and beard.
In fact, I have contacted numerous Muslims in my industry seeking work. I even offered working for free so that I can gain experience. Only one Muslim even responded. Then too, every Muslim business employs female staff. Nothing halaal is forthcoming. Please advise me.
Q: For a long time I did not follow much of Islam, in fact, very little. I made a very major sin last year @ the age of 34 and that was my turning point. I had gone from praying one salaat every now and then and if I did two on the same day that was an improvement for me. Since my major sin, I'm praying four salaats a day. I tried five, but I think I was praying too much too quickly. So, I dropped back from five to four. Once I'm able to do my salaats with ease I will add the final salaat which is my Fajr prayer that I find most difficult. Since then I have tried to lead a better life and hope to return to Allah Ta'ala in the best of conditions Inshallah.
My question is that the more salaats I am praying, the more angrier I am getting. I am very quick now to overact and my anger escalates very quickly and I know for a fact that this is not me... the less I followed of Islam I never ever used to get this angry... Infact I would always practice being calm in all situations. The regular anger that I feel now would only happen back then when I was pushed to the limit. I don't know what to do. Please explain to me what is happening and what I can do about it.
Q: I am currently living with my parents with my husband and 2 toddlers, my sister lives in her own house but has no kids. Do I need to offer my mother and sister whenever I go out with my husband and children like to the beach or for outings? My father does not take my mother out much and her only opportunity to go out for entertainment is with us. Sometimes I feel guilty if I don't offer them as I would not want to be in their situation one day but I like spending quality time with my husband and children only.