Advice

Q: I have been married now for 15 years. I have three children. My son is doing hifz. I just found out that my husband has been closely associated with a mutual friend. He has helped her purchase a car and often chats and gives her company as her husband has left her. She is Muslim but frequents clubs and night life. He enjoys this life too as he is never home with my kids and I. It was posted on facebook by her husband that my husband is a lucky guy because he has her. I don't wish to share a life with this man anymore as he has disrespected me and does not give me the companionship I desire. I have asked him to set me free and grant me my three talaaqs. He won't. Mufti I don't think its fair that he has best of both worlds. I realised I have sinned by asking for talaaq. What do I do to repent and what advice do you have for me on how to deal with this problem as I cannot bear to look at him. He feels like dirty trash to me.please help me.

Q: I am a revert. I have sent a question before asking about divorcing my husband. My husband is having relationships with other non muslim women. Takes them on coffee dates. Compliments them etc. I have gone to the Jamiatul ulama SA and my husband just says what they want to hear but he doesn't change his ways. They also don't follow up. Can I commit suicide? I'm tired of lies, fake Muslims and him.

Q: I have asked a question previously about my divorce. My marriage was forced and I am not happy. Other than my happiness I am afraid I am not able to fulfil my husband rights being a wife. You have instructed me to go to local mosque or scholar which is not possible for me. I can not go alone and put my question in front of anyone. What Islam says if girl is not happy with a person, I don't feel love or affection for my husband even I try a lot but then I become rude towards him. He had physical relations with a girl and other problems as well for which he said sorry. But still if I want to end this relation would that be ok? Do all marriages are like that where I don't feel anything for him, even our sex life is also very bad. Please guide me what should I do. I can not tell my family, they say we need some solid reason to end this relation. Only way of ending this relation is if I ask my husband to leave me and if I do everyone is going to attack me for this. Please tell me what is the right thing to do? Should I tell my husband even I told him many times that we are not mentally compatible and not happy in this relation but he never pay attention.

Q: I am currently studying BDS 3rd year in a private college and now I had interest to study Deen but my parent's are against it they want me to study BDS. While studying BDS I can't follow Deen because my university doesn't permit me to have a beard and to raise the lower garments above the ankle and many other issues. So please kindly help me by suggesting a right path. I am very shy to ask this question to my local Imam. Please help me as soon as possible as I am totally helpless waiting for your reply.

Q: I have a very unusual question. I am married and alhumdullilah I am blessed with 2 sons. A few years ago my dad passed away in an accident and my mom was young so we decided to get her married and we did. But her husband was not of good character and he left her after two months and my Mom came back to my house. It's more than 3 years now he did not contact her but at the same time he is not giving her divorce. We asked so many times but he always refused it. Now we have another man who wanted her to get married to him but he is not giving divorce. We can't go to court because of some legal issues. So in that case what does Islam say about women in this situation?

Q: My question is that I am suffering from inferiority complex. I mean despite having friends, good family, beauty, money and all these, my heart is not satisfied. I only think with myself that I don't have any friend, I get serious on small jokes of my friends, I get too much tension from small things. I think that the people are ignoring me, if two of my friends are going closer and I am a little on distance with them I feel that they don't care of me, whenever I look to the handwriting of my friend my heart says that there writing is better than mine. Simply I would like to say that I have no peace of heart and mind and I always consider myself smaller than others. Please tell me the reason and treatment.

Q: Sometimes people have these strange looks in their faces that is annoying and sometimes they can't help it. You realise this when you are having a conversation with them. I want to know, please can this be linked or traced to hypocrisy or mental behaviour of the face, insincerity, or due to effect of sins done with the face or any form of sins? Please I want to Know.

Q: I'm facing a hardship but as my namaz/nafawil/ibaadat has increased I can estimate that it is a test/azmaaish on me. How to pass Allah's test of hardship? Azmaaish? What if I fail to pass the test what will happen?

Q: I feel as if my husband is too strict with me. Before he wasn't like this when we got married but now he stops me from a lot of things. I've never had to live a life with so many restrictions. It's very hard but I listen to my husband in everything. But nowadays I just feel like running away from everything. I have locked up everything inside me and I feel trapped. I can't go anywhere. He has become too Islamic. I just don't know what to do. I'm sad all the time and depressed. None of my relatives even meet us now because of how he has become. He has changed too much in such short time and I haven't adjusted to all this yet.

Q: I am married and have kids. Through out my marriage I had a lot of problems. I stayed because of my kids. The issues were mainly my wife is listening to her brothers and parents who have just become rich and I still belongs to the middle class. She just argued on everything and when she is at her parents home she lies about me (means doing Gheebat in indirect ways). She goes with her parents on outings without me. I clearly told her that try to live happily with the salary I earn and don't keep your eyes on your brothers money. But then she started arguing by saying that my brother is giving me money and taking me out and you have to live alone if you cannot spent for me and for yourself. (If I to her as Greedy, I would be correct). She even shouts in front of me and doesn't even let me touch her as for marital intercourse or for anything and just saying that you are having just lust for sex, but cannot fulfil my other dressing and so on. She even prays 5 times a day and reads Qur'an also. Will it be acceptable by Allah Ta'ala in this situation? Please help and also advise that what should i do?