Advice

Q: I have been married for four years now. My husband has a problem abusing substances, when he gets involved with this activity he becomes a total different person. He doesn't give me money for food or for my and the kids essentials. He steals and sells anything in our home, sells the car
and if we are renting eventually we get put out and that leaves us either going to stay at his moms place or we have to separate, me staying at my parents and him at his. While busy with this substance, he commits zina as well then accuses me of committing zina and sends me disturbing texts. I know he is unfaithful because I get messages on his phone or people would tell me and he will deny until I presurise him to a point of admitting. He relapses every 4 or so months and for a period of 2 to 3 months, when he is not smoking this substance he is in jamaat, makes sallah 5 times a day and is a very good example for me and the kids. This is so confusing to me, its like I've married two different people, I do not know what to do, I feel I cannot be married to him any longer but I fear Allah so much so that I rather stay and live this confusing life. We havn't been living together for more than a year now because of this problem. He has and every time we get close to finding a place and moving in together he relapses. My parents are against the marriage and don't want me going back. I've spoken to him to seek help but every time he gets to his feet he assures himself and myself it won't happen again and if I keep bringing the subject forth he gets mad at me. He has been to several institutions but all with fail. What I want to know is do I stand on halaal grounds for a fasagh? He doesn't want me to but the pressure gets so much to me that I fall into deep  depression.

Q: A person does an act of Sadaqah-E-Jariah with a corrupted intention. Maybe contributing to a Masjid, distributing a Deeni kitaab etc. Perhaps the intention was one of pride and show.

1. Does the magnitude of the person's sin and disobedience in the sight of Allah Ta'ala continue to multiply and grow as people use/take  benefit from the action he has done? Then, the same person later on realizes his error of having a corrupted intention and accordingly makes taubah.
2. If his taubah is accepted by Allah Ta'ala, could he now start receiving reward for his initial action?

Q: I have it incredibly difficult. I do not know where my future will bring me. I have now waited about 7 months to get into the university. In January, there was a new class that started. but I still did not get admission to medical school. I have sent them emails and they have said that when some students quit they will be releasing new offers but only for some students (they have the list of them). I want this more than anything else. I want to do this for my parents I want them to be proud of me. But I feel that everything seems impossible and very difficult now. When I was in high school I had very good grades but at the end of the school year my grades went down. I do not know how, we complained but the school didn't help me. All my other friends got admission some in Norway and in other countries, they are studying and they are happy. They have a future. I have not told anyone this, not even my parents. I am a loser, I am not studying something. I have worked hard for this for so many years. School ends in June and I must wait two years. I can not waste so many years. Please how can my hajat get fulfilled? Any wazifa or dua I can do?

Q: I am running a computer business for the last 18 years alhamdulillah. It was going well but for the last 2 years it has been going slow. I am thinking if I should close down the business or what should I do please advise me.

Q: My friend and I wanted to marry each other. We used to like each other very much but under her parents pressure to keep Allah happy she is marrying someone else. But we both have promised each other that we will meet and live together in Jannah forever for the scarifices we are making for Allah's will. Is this possible?

Q: My son's wedding date has been finalized and both parties have agreed that we will just have one joint reception and split the cost two ways. However I am now experiencing problems whereby the brides family do not want to have the separation for males and females and instead want a mixed gathering as they say that immediately after the reception you will notice the mixing of the sexes outside the hall and my wife agrees with them. What advise can Mufti give me to take to my wife and the bride's family.

Q: How can a person who tries his best to keep away from sins convince himself that he is the most bad person in this world when he sees people
around him are sinning openly? I humbly request your advice in this regard so that I can have a pure heart free from all sort of roohani diseases like
thakabbur etc.

Q: We have a non-profitable organization which is run by rental income and public funds. We see to the running expenses of the masajid, maktab and girls madressa. We would like to introduce a Ramadan hadiya for all our staff, for the following reasons: 

1. Other organizations are offering this which is making it increasingly difficult to employ ulama and aalimat.
2. The hadiya is not performance based, but it is hoped that their performance will improve.
3. Our staff can enjoy a comfortable Eid.
4. Keeping with the generosity of Nabi (Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam) in Ramadhaan.

Your assistance in this regard will be highly appreciated.

Q: I am married from last years. My wife went to her parents home 3 weeks back. All was normal before she went. From her parents home she called me and told me that she is coming back in 2 days time. After that my mother got a call from her father and he told my mother that she wants divorce. I better give divorce or they will go to the court. I am not allowed to meet my wife and kids from her father. Even I can not talk to my wife and kids. I don't know if my wife also wants this or not because I don't have any communication with her. What is the Islamic ruling about this situation and what is the ruling of divorce in this situation?

Q: I would like to know how do I get back spiritually to ibadaats because I'm so worried after years it took me so long to grow a beard an then perform my salaah an did it constant for 2 years all of a sudden I feel I lost the plot, not interested, that feeling is no more there and feeling down and out financially depressed too much of pressure and losing hope. Please guide me. I'm aware of neglecting my salaah but I don't.