Advice

Q: How should one advise a female family member who feels strongly about gender equality?

Q: Sadly I have found a video recording of my wife with another man. Can I use this video in an Islamic court as proof of her cheating? It is conclusive that it is in fact her as there is mentioned very specific personal details.

Q: I am a Palestinian woman, 20 years old now in USA, my family is back in Palestine. Desperate for marriage I went on a Muslim matrimonial website and found a Pakistani man to be my husband. I have met his family and spent much time with his family. Due to our tradition though, he says he cannot marry me and will not marry me until he and his parents meet my parents. There really is not a way to make that happen at least for years. What do I do? What are the options for us? We are engaged, will I have to repent to Allah if this does not work out? I am so lost and alone please help.

Q: Your advice is being sought for the following:

In case a wife who has been advised not to do 'eyebrow shaping' (epilation des sourcils) numerous times by her husband, but the wife does not obey her husband and still does it often due to peer pressure because her sisters do it often. What course of action may the husband take?

Q: Today I saw a white spot on my wife's shalwar. I was amazed but I didnt ask her. Is it possible it can be any woman disease or my wife is unfaithful with me?

Q: When hypocrisy is in the heart how to cure it?

Q: I am in a dilemma. The scenario is as such. I am newly married. My wife teaches in a masjid full time Hifz and drives there and back home. She is not living with me at the moment. She will start living with me at the end of April. I disapprove of this teaching in the masjid and the driving.

The thing is my wife said she wants to continue teaching and driving back and forth. She says that she will be bored in the day and wants to keep herself busy. I totally disagree and feel she can do her own dor and teach at home.

My dad gives me mushwara to let her drive and work in the masjid and so does her father until we, inshaAllah have a child.

I feel this totally negates the shariah. I am very sad at the moment and feel like crying because they make me feel like I'm stopping her from something good. I don't want her to work or drive. What is your advice on how I should proceed in this matter?

Q: My sister in law, that means my husbands younger sister, when she feeds her son breast milk, she takes her breasts out and feeds her son in an open room. My father in law, my brothers in law and my husband are all living together. When she breastfeeds her son, she doesn't close the room door but keeps the door wide. My husband went in that room to take his things but he didn't mean to go see her with an ugly mind. I too didn't mean that my husband is going to the room with an ugly mind. I know he is going to take his things which is in that room but when I was talking to my husband about this matter, I ask my husband "How do you have permission to go in that room when she was taking her breasts out, it is not permissible in Islam." Then my husband complained that I have an a ugly mind about his sister and he says that I'm an ugly woman and I'm suspecting their pure relationship. It's not like that wallahi, as a wife my husband hasn't seen my whole body. It's hurts me. That's why I am asking regarding his sister. He says that he has the total permission to go in front of his sister even if she feeds with her breasts out. Does my husband have permission to see his sisters body parts as a brother?

Q: I am married and pregnant with my first child. Currently I am staying with my parents in Saudi while my husband is in Kenya. I came for iqamah renewal. My husband sent a ticket for me to return but my parents got involved by not letting me go. Now my husband sent a text saying that he doesn't want me because of my parents. I tried calling and texting him but he isn't replying nor is his sister replying. Is getting away from my parents be wrong Islamically? I don't know what else to do.

Q: I have this problem that has been bothering me for over 4 months now. I don't know what to do.

People tell me to pray and you will forget about it. But it is very difficult and I feel like no one understands me.

I used to work last year September till November so I worked only for 2 months. Within that 2 months my manager (who is 30 and I'm 19) has always supported me, and was there for me. We both grew a trusting relationship where we told eachother everything. Even when it came to talking about our illnesses and family problems with eachother. Bear in mind that he is a divorcee and married again. He has been there to support me and when no one understood me, his the only one that did.

Since I left my job, I feel like I'm going mental because I can't stop thinking about him. He told me about his illness so I gave him a Quran speaker, so hearing recitation keeps him calm. I cannot go through a single prayer without making dua for him. I can't sleep at night but worry if his okay, 24/7 (I mean 24/7) I think about him and question myself "is he ok" and pray to Allah to keep him safe and happy.

I know that I have no affection towards him. And I know myself that I am not allowing Shaytaan to play with my head. It's a Muslim sister worrying about her brother. I finished a Quran khatam for him, and I call up my store using a private number so when I hear his voice I know his safe and ok.

It's been 4 months and I still can't forget about him. I really don't know what to do it's very difficult and I really need help!