Advice

Talking to someone about one's problems

Q: Is it allowed to tell someone your problems? I have been struggling from depression and anxiety kind of stuff. I didn't tell anybody about it so it got worse. I know alhamdullila, that only Allah can cure this and get me out of this but can I tell someone like sharing with someone and is it allowed to tell an Aalim of Deen about your problems as I faced problems and I didn't tell anyone about it so it got worse.

Marital problems

Q: I am a divorced woman with 1 baby boy. My last marriage ended because my ex husband was draining me financially. He sent me a divorce as soon as our child was born. Life became very difficult and I was mentally upset for my child. I married again very quickly to the elder brother of a man my younger sister was engaged to. These people were also lower in status financially but we agreed to it because they were willing to take my son too. That man has turned out to be schizophrenic. He sleepwalks, tries to suffocate himself or me, assumes things and acts so scary that I feel concerned for our safety. He beats me, abuses me, tries to scare my son badly. I often find my son scratched in various places and scared. I am expecting another child now. He is using me entirely for money, treats me like a servant even though I am heavily pregnant and cant walk. I pay the bills, grocery. I even leave my kid with my sister sometimes because I feel too scared for what he witnesses. People of our society will kill me for another divorce and he is always threatning me with it. His entire family is like this and they want to beat me to the ground. They wont let me end my sisters engagement unless I want a divorce again. I am so badly stuck and I am always so afraid in his company. My son has also told me in broken language that he touches his private parts. Please help me! I am extremely worried and scared.

Getting married to please one's uncle

Q: My husbands uncle asked him to marry his cousin. She lives in Kenya and we live in the US. I am okay with it but my husband is telling me that he feels like he is deceiving her because he doesnt think he can take the responsibility but he doesnt want to get his uncle mad and he regrets accepting it. What I want to know is, is it wrong for me to make dua saying "Allah, if he cant take the responsibility, may Allah not make the marriage happen" because I dont want the girl in sadness because she is my sister? I dont want her to miss the chance of having someone that will love her and not be forced because the father wanted?

Haraam relationship

Q: I really need advice on what to do. I have a partner whom I love very much. We have a child together who is 7 years old but my problem is my partner never married me because he is married to someone and it was an arranged marriage they also have kids together, but his wife does not know about me and my son neither does his mother know. Years ago his mom came to know and separated us but he always came back. I cannot be with anyone else because I love this man and I have given him myself completely. But I also want too do things the right way because I believe Allah Ta'ala will want the same but he is so scared to tell his family about me and my son and to make things right. How long can I live with this of not being married to him because it's haraam and I just want things to be right. He does everything for me and our son and he does truly love us but how can we make this any better?

Learning Islam

Q: I am a revert for five months now and I am currently doing my last year in media studies? I would like to take up Islamic studies but I am the only Muslim in my family and I fear that my parents will not support my decision. How can I handle this situation?

Marrying a prostitute

Q: I'm 25 years old, unmarried by birth. I am a Muslim and I was not practising till last month and now I got fear of Allah. I started praying and reading Qur'an everyday. I need help on this. I met a girl on social media 6 months ago. We chatted only online. She is Christian and her profession is sexworker (prostitution) and we started loving each other. She stopped working (prostitution) because of me. Does Islam allow me to marry her. Now I'm fearing about Allah more.

Going to live in Dubai

Q: I need advice. I am currently a student and I have a friend who lives in Dubai. So this friend of mine wants me to come to Dubai and search for greener pastures but I am thinking about my education too because I have not yet completed my school. Please I need your advice on what to do so that Allah will show the right channel to this problem.