Those situations where Talaaq does not take place

Q: I got married in 1995. In 1998, my husband said on the phone "If you don't come by tonight's flight we will not be able to stay together, but as flights were not available I could only reach the next day. My husband did not intend to divorce me.

1. Is it counted as one divorce?

In 2002 we had to sign a court paper in America of divorce due to some official issues but we asked a clergy if this will be counted as divorce and he said no. After making sure that it does not affect our relationship we signed the papers, and stayed afterwards together as husband and wife.

2. Is it counted as talak?

In 2003, after a fight with my husband, he sent me mail saying that he does not want to continue the relationship but he did not use the term talak, but he intended to give talak. We are staying seperately after that but we spoke to each other atleast once or twice in a year as some mufti told me that I am not divorce and to keep the relationship I should be talking to him. After that I consulted many muftis to know if our relationship existed but some said that it existed while others said that it did not.

Please confirm as we want to stay together now after a lot of hardships for many years. We are trying to stay together but because of this being not clear we are not able to continue our relationship. 

Q: Me and my wife argued and I got angry and left the house and said "I will never come back to your house" and I left the house and now staying with friends until the situation changes. Is this considered divorce in Islam?

Q: My husband has anger issues. I belong from a different country. In a fight, I used to say "theek h ap mre papers bana de" What I meant was immigration papers and he said ok.

1. Is that a divorce? 

2. Is that revocable or irrevocable?

3. Is papers bana de kinaya alfaz?

Q: By saying "maine talaq daydoonga" is talaq done or counted as talaq? Because all I said to warn my wife.

Q: My spouse and I had a severe argument and in anger and anguish without realizing I said to her I will divorce you. When I came back to my senses I realized what mistake I made since it wasn't my intention but she abused my mother and I completely lost it.

Last year we had few fights and I had said this twice but she has always stopped me but I am not sure if divorce is done or not. If it has, is there a way out of this since I wasn't in my senses.

Q: Please advise if talaaq takes place in the following incidents:

1. Telling my wife that we will get divorced.

2. Telling my brother in law and wife that I have decided (meaning that I have decided that I want to and will divorce my wife).

3. Telling my father in law that my wife and I both decided that it is best for us to get divorced.

4. Telling my mother that there's no other option (meaning that there's no other option for my wife and I other than getting divorced)

Q: This question is related to word talaq during an argument. I said to my wife mujhse paper lelena and I also said mujhse sign lelna will it be talaq?

Are the words mujhse paper lelena/paper collect karlena and mujhse sign lelena are words of talaq or these words points towards future or promise of talaq?

Q: If a girl tells her fiance before marriage that whenever you go to any country, our relation will finish or divorce will be happen and the boy reply "ok". He did not say any other words. He said in his mind that he had no intention for this, he just said ok so they don't fight more. After marriage, if he goes to any country, will the divorce apply or not?

Q: Before marriage a person (male) wrote "single" in his facebook id and status but after marriage he did not change his id or status. He still uses his facebook. He has no intention of divorce. Does it affect the nikaah? 

Q:

1. Sometimes my wife comes to me and asks me about doing something. I reply to her "jo dil chahe karo", Is say it sometimes to show my anger, and sometimes just to tell her that she can do it or not. I never used the word "free" or "azad" or "farigh" and never intended divorce. Additionally, we both originate from same city and same neighborhoods, and we both don't understand "jo dil chahe karo" is not considered exclusive term for divorce.

2. During a fight I used the words such as dafa hojao "get lost", "buy ticket and leave", "get out" etc. and never once intended divorce.