Q:
1. During an argument/fight, my wife said to me “mujhe tumhare sath nahi rehna” and I replied to her “mujhe bhi tumhare sath nahi rehna” so will it be a talaaq?
2. Is the word “mujhe tumhare sath nahi rehna” a word of talaaq?
3. Is saying to one’s wife “mujhe tumhare sath rishta nahi rakhna” will lead to talaaq. Is this sentence a word of talaaq?
Q: I have this issue which happened last year, but it has been playing in my head ever since.
Whilst my wife was fighting with me and moaning about my mum and sisters, she was upstairs saying this and I was on the sofa downstairs. She kept going on about them and in my head thoughts came up to say ‘that’s it I can’t take this anymore I want a divorce’. This was in my thoughts and was not spoken out loud at this point. Then straight after this thought she stopped for a few seconds and then started saying stuff again and I then immediately got up and said ‘that’s it’ so quick without thinking but I don’t know if my intention was divorce or to say I am fed up with you moaning.
After a little 5 second break of me saying ‘that’s it’ I said I’m going to speak to my mum and dad, and they can speak to your mum and dad’ I may have been referring to divorce or about her moaning I really can’t remember.
Since then my head has been playing this scenario back to back trying to find out what my real intention was when I said the words above, I really can’t remember now as it happened last year.
I would say 90-95 percent may have been with intention of divorce but there is a doubt of 5 to 10 percent that I did not and was just fed up of her moaning all the time as it happened so quick. I also get waswasa where the words divorce are most of the time just in my head even when I try to ignore them and I could be having a normal conversation with my wife and the words would just been in my head whilst speaking during a normal conversation as well as fighting.
Please can you confirm the status of my marriage and if I am needed to do my nikah again and if I do. Do I give dowry again and how many witnesses do I need?
Q: A few days back I was sitting with my kids and husband. He said to me that it's your mistake that you didn't give the kid anything to eat. I replied, "as you have already diagnosed it to be a mistake then i'll not explain". He said,"diagnosed, divorced." I said what did you say. He repeated again divorced. I asked what do you mean. He said you said diagnosed. I said divorced, anthing else. According to him he just spoke a metaphor similar to the word diagnosed. He didn't mean to divorce me. Kindly guide me whats the status of my marital status now?
Q: I am in Saudi Arabia and don’t know Arabic. One day I was talking to a person who didn’t understand much English. He asked me whether I am married or not. I said to him "Yes, I am married" but as he was weak in English so I tend to speak Arabic and I said “nikah khalas”. I found out khalas has many meanings in Arabic such as done/finish/over/complete. But my intention was to say nikah is done/hogaya so will “nikah khalas” be a word of talaaq or not?
Q: If any unmarried boy said that he divorced his wife (3 times). He meant that, if at that present time he had married a specific girl (one of his cousin's sister in law) then only that girl is divorced. He thought, he mistakenly married that girl (one of his cousin's sister in law).
Actually, he understood later that, that was not a marriage. It was his over thinking. That boy never thought of divorcing any other girl or his future wife while utturing those words. That boy did not even know, that there is a possibility of divorce before marriage.
Now, after around 12 years that boy/man wants to marry another girl. Is there any issue? Will those words be effective?
Q: Please advise if any of these situations constitute a talaq.
1. Telling my wife that we should get divorced.
2. Telling her all the reasons why I want to get divorced in a state of anger, not intending to give a talaq at that point but planning to do so at a later stage
3. Saying "I've already decided" after being told by my wife to decide what I want to do before discussing it with her parents. This was in reference to the terms which I wanted to stipulate in writing before giving a talaq, particularly with regard to my visitation rights with the children. However, we did not go ahead with this and I did not give a talaq.
4. Saying "I'm sick and tired of your s***" in a state of anger (again as a reason as to why I want to divorce her).
Please note that I always suffer from doubts regarding my intentions after an argument with my wife even though I am very cautious of making sure that I don't issue a talaq at the point when any of those words are spoken. I am a bit confused but I'm not sure if I'm claiming that I'm confused just to try and save my marriage and this creates more doubt because I feel that maybe I'm being hypocritical.
Q: A wife accidentally told her husband that you are my father. Does this have any effect on the nikaah?
Q: I told my wife "If you ever work in that place again, I guarantee you it will break our relationship"
The intention when saying those words was in order to threaten her so she doesn't work there, but I'm not sure if I had the intention of actually divorcing her immediately if she started working there. It was in the context of that if she works there, it will affect our relationships trust. Thus it may lead to a break up, so she should be careful.
Q: My husband suffers from a serious mental illness. He has a bipolar disorder which means that he goes into both manic and depressive episodes. He was diagnosed by a psychiatrist in Decembwr 2018 and is on medication for it.
We have been married for 6 and a half years, and we have 3 young children together. Our marriage was very good alhamdullilah until about a year ago when signs of his illness began.
When he is manic, he has lots of rage, he has no impulse control and behaves in a way completely out of character. He says strange things and treats everyone very badly. He can hallucinate and become paranoid. His condition has been getting worse.
A few nights ago, we had a big fight because he was saying terrible things to me by text and I was very upset. All of a sudden he said he will divorce me, if not tonight then he will do it tomorrow. He has never said anything bout divorce before. I was so upset I drove straight to his parent's house where he was and I went to him and said 'you want to divorce me? then ok, do it'! At the time he was sitting with his brother who said that he was saying strange things to him before I arrived which did not make any sense and he had been trying to calm him down. His family pulled me from the room before he could respond to me, but he went into a rage and ran in the room to me and then he said talaq 3 times. He was highly agitated, screaming at everyone and swearing at me going crazy saying things he has never said before. He went crazy at all his family and continued to act manic and agitated. This was at his parent's home in front of his family. I left the house.
Since then, in the last few days his behaviour and psychosis got so much worse he was having delusions and going completely crazy to the point he was taken by police and has now been locked in a mental health facility. They found out that he had stopped taking his medication about a week ago because he believed it was killing him, and also that his medicine dosage has been massively insufficient so they immediately doubled it. He has now gone into a depressive state and is crying constantly and talking about self harm.
Now I need to know if our divorce is valid or not. He was very obviously not in his right mind when he said it, he was enraged, off his medication and having an extremely paychotic manic episode at the time. He also previously never expressed any desire for divorce, but if it was a valid divorce then I need to know.
Q: The problem is, that my sister and her mother in law had a raw, and as the result, her husband got furious at her mom and my sister and got agressive and dragged my sister out of their house and wanted her to leave. When things started getting worse my sister said, "OK, I will leave". Her husband, still furious,(yelling at her) (first wanted her to leave) then put condition, if my sister will leave, he will say (Talaaq).
But my sister left, and now, her husband is calm, and they both want to live together. They have 2 children together.
This is very irresponsible behaviour from his side, thats for sure, but please advice us, is their marriage still sound? Will the marriage be broken if someone out of anger say's something like that?