Oaths & Vows

Q: I made an oath/promise that if Allah takes me into the third year (of University) I won't look at Haraam videos. So far Alhumdulillah I have kept up this promise but day by day I am finding it hard to keep it. So can I change the promise to something else like pray Tahajjud everyday or something else. Because I am afraid I might break the promise. However I don't plan on breaking the promise but just in case if it does happen.

Note: I am not in the third year yet bet most likely I will be Inshallah.

Q: Is is jaaiz to take qasm like this: la amri as in the poem 'haaza la amri fil fiaali badeeu'

Q: Once while conversing with some body I took khuda ki qasam for some reason. After the conversation I thought about my qasam was right or not. I think I have taken a wrong qasam. The actual sentence for qasam was “khuda ki qasam hum mazaak men bole the”. This sentence was spoken by me for another sentence I spoke earlier (for which I am confused that whether it was spoken in mazaak or not from my side but I took an oath on khuda).

Q: The way before I made a prayer that if I succeed in so and so I will try my level best to offer tahajjud regularly. So if for some reason I skip a day or days then did I commit a sin? Offering tahajjud regularly for the sake of mannat, does this make the reward of tahajjud any less? I made supplication like this "Allah apne kamyaabi di to mein tahajjud ki pabandi karney ki puri koshish karungi "

Q: Does saying the following sentence constitute a oath: " tawbah that I will use this phone ever again."?

Q: I asked someone to say some specific words. That Person said it in normal way but I knew it from my heart that that person was lying to me so I asked him to swear to Allah on this and I insisted many times. During our conversation that person once mentioned that my (that person's) life in this world is destroyed and you want to ruin my Akhira (world hereafter) as well. At last that person said those words with "swear to Allah". My question is now what to do? What is the Kafaarah in this situation and what are the obligations on me towards that specific incident because it was I who was insisting for this again and again. What should I do for that person?

Q: Please tell me what a woman should do if she makes a vow in tuhur that she will read all her nafl salaah for the next 2 weeks, but in between her haid started? Should she compensate this vow? And how should she? Or is this vow maaf for her because of her haiz coming in between?

Q: Sometimes I fix some monetary punishment (verbally/written as document/mentally assume) to do or not to do a job in future. It helps me very much from saving myself from many wrong doings. However sometimes, I fail to maintain it and make the wrong doing. Now my inquiry is: 

1. Is it wajib to pay the punishment money since I did not utter Allah’s name i.e. Kosom or Mannoth on Allah’s name?
2. What is the Islamic ruling in this issue?

س:  في الماضي في أحد الأيام، وقع في بطني آلام شديدة، و بسبب الخوف الشديد على صحتي، قد أقسمت بالقسم، و تلفظت بمثل هذه الكلمات: "يا ربي إني أقسم لك، لو إنتهت الآلام، أنا كل يوم، سأشتغل بالتهليل، بل بزيادة التهليل، بقدر الممكن." (بعد القليل، إنتهت الآلام) و كنت أكرر هذا القسم بمرات كثيرة، و لكن وقع هذا التكرار في مكان واحد، و في كل مرة عندما أقسمت، كنت قصدت أمرا واحدا و قسما واحد. بل كررت القسم للتشديد فقط. و يصعب حالي بسبب أني قلت: "سأزيد التهليل كل يوم بقدر الممكن." و هذا اللفظ واسع التأويل و  التفسير. و ما كنت قائما بهذا الوعد و القسم أثناء عشرة سنوات، حتى الآن. و ما يترتب على ذلك؟ هل يكفي لي توزيع كفارة اليمين مرة واحدة فقط، و التوبة النصوح إلى الله مرة واحدة؟  إن كان هناك يجب كفارة اليمين لكل يوم من عشرة سنوات - فهذا صعب جدا، بل لا يمكن في حالي الإقتصادي. و لا يمكن أيضا أن أصوم بثلاث أيام متتابعة لكل يوم من عشرة سنوات، لأن ذلك ثلاثون سنوات متتابعة. ما أفعل فيما ذكرت؟ هل يجب علي نفسي التهليل بل الزيادة به كل يوم بقدر الممكن؟ و كيف أشرح على نفسي اللفظ : "بقدر الممكن؟"  ما نصيحتكم لي؟