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Q: Three years ago after giving birth, my auntie had her operation done to avoid conceiving any more children. This was because she was facing alot of marriage problems and had this done without notifying her husband. The reason being was that she was worried that it might have a reverse affect on her marriage or her husband wouldn't support her decision. Its been 3 years now and her husband is still unaware of this.

Now mmy auntie has alot of remorse and regret for her action. She feels she is deceiving her husband who really wants another child. She is unable to tell her husband about this act as she fears it might ruin her marriage or she will lose her husband's trust. My auntie is facing a dilemma and doesnt know what to do.

She has cried in front of Allah and asked Allah's for forgiveness many times considering this act of hers to be wrong.

Apart from this alhumdulilah she is living a happy married life. Both her and her husband want to have another child preferably a son as they have 2 daughters. My auntie also thinks she will be able to concieve and she has seen many dreams where either her mom (deceased) is giving her a new born baby or she has had one herself. She has also spoken to the doctors to ask her if anything can be reversed however they have said no.

Could you please help my auntie out of this situation. What should she do to remove this guilt from her life? Is there anything that she can pray to have another child despite the operation.?

Q: Kya aurat ki operation kara sakte hai agar uski jaan ko khatra ho toh kyunki mughe operation se 2 bacche ho chuke hai aur aaj tisra hoga doctor ne kaha ki aage baacha agar ruka toh jaan ka khatra ho sakta hai aur doctor bhi musalman hai aur woh bol rahi hai ki operation karna zaruri hai toh main kara sakta hu ki nahi

Q: I would like to know if it is permissable for me (age 25) to have my tubes tied? I am currently expecting and once I give birth I would like to tie my tubes instead of taking the pill and breastfeeding as it may cause hormones in my milk (thats what I think) also I know my husband would not want another child now at all. He did not take well the fact that I was pregnant in the starting. I am also not ready for the responsibility of a second child. My husband does not like using a condom and I am reluctant to use the pill due to maybe possible side effects on the baby feeding on me. Please advise.

Q: In my first pregnancy I had a complication which put the baby life at risk and so the baby was born early. Doctors are saying that I am at very high risk of this happening again. The first time the condition that was life threatening to us both was picked up in time so shukr we both are fine. With this warning should I have more children or rather not? If it is life threatening to the mother is it allowed to sterilize?