Various masaail of Hajj & Umarah

Q: Is youmul Arafah on Friday or Saturday in South Africa. Please provide me with a shari response to those who say it is the actual day the haajis will be in Arafah and not the date.

Q: I have two close relatives. Actually very close. One of them fought with me and insulted my husband very badly, his wife and kids were involved in it. At that time we were staying at their house while visiting from another country. The next day the couple apologised to me as they were my relatives. We both forgave them. When we came to our home, he then called me via phone brought up the same topic and started screaming and yelling at me in a very insolent way. I hung up the phone then he wrote an email sent it to all my siblings and said very insulting and awful things about me and my kids, all my siblings were shocked that he talked to me in such a bad manner through email. We have not talked to each other since over one year and he is 10 years younger than me, same kind of situation happened between his sister and I.

This year InshaAllah I am going for Hajj along with my husband. Some one said I should call and talk to him, I did not do anything wrong. It's them who really hurt my feelings along with my husband's within this period of one year. I have been hearing that he has been rubbish talking about me. Will our Hajj be qubool if we don't call him or God forbid not. Will you please guide us?

Q: My uncle and aunty have the funds to make a fardh Hajj. They have applied to sahuc 3 years ago and have not yet been approved. If they are not approved can they proceed for Umrah this year and save up money again for Hajj or should they store that money until they are approved for Hajj?

Q: I wanted to know that with regards to being a musaafir, is makkah and mina considered as one city? Some say that its not - if this is your view, then what is the proof for it and if it is not considered as one, then some say its urf. What is the proof that this masalah is based on urf?

Q: I wanted to know that with regards to being a musaafir, is makkah and madinah considered as one city? Some say that its not - if this is your view, then what is the proof for it and if it is not considered as one, then some say its urf. Whats the proof that this masalah is based on urf?

Q: What should we call people that have performed umrah? Is calling a person Haji correct or not?

Q: When we see the ka'bah are our duas accepted at that time?

Q: Why are non muslims not allowed to visit Makkah and Madinah which is a holy place of Islam?

Q: My parents and I are going for Umrah on the 23 February insha allah. Please can you shed some light on Umrah for me as this is going to be our first trip out of South Africa. I have been reading books on Umrah.

Q: Are women allowed to perform Salaah in the two harams?