Tasawwuf

Aligning oneself to a pious spiritual Shaikh

Q: A person values something wholeheartedly, without disturbing anything else seeking Allah's Protection and Help, he tries to act upon the faraaidh, the sunnah knowing Allah to Him Belongs all things and to Him is the Ultimate return. If one silently, carefully, tries to act upon the deen but finds it difficult to make that continous effort because of "disturbance" [not exactly sin] but his mind being interrupted by the feeling of lack of taufeeq and enviromental insignificance for the deen, like outwardly or inwardly sunnats, preferance for faraaidh, etc. How does one maintain his continuous flow of aa'maal if he feels such weak, that he is disturbed by slightest interruptions/disturbances of being put-off by sayings of people or enviorment or even himself? How does one overcome this, it seems as long as one has no disturbances at least for some time, only then he can penetrate the flow and continuity of aa'maal, his faraaidh [inward/outward] sunnats etc. So how does he do this?

Leaving out things that do not concern one

Q: I listen to your audios. I didn't understand one thing. You said "why should you take someone's misery? If he wants to be miserable let him die with his misery. Your heart is not a dumpyard, it is the place where the noor of Allah descends". It was something like that. What do you actually mean? I have a friend who shares her misery with me, (she is married to someone who she started to dislike but likes someone else who is getting married and many other things) I really don't know how to react and how to help her. Should I stop listening to her? Is that what you meant to say?

What is the key to keep one's heart clean?

Procedure for a female taking bay'at

Q: I want to change my life and attain closeness to Allah and true love for Him. However my parents don't want me to take bay'at. They think I'll become "too pious". So can I take bay'at without my parents permission? I won't be corresponding with the Sheikh directly but rather with his wife. And I know that the Sheikh is a Sheikh-e-Kaamil.

Shaikh having a WhatsApp group for females

Q: My question is regarding mixed whatsapp groups.

If such a group is created where there is only females and the shaikh as members. No one talks on the group besides the shaikh who sends Islamic messages and audios (majlis, dhikr, etc). There is no informal discussion not even formal ones with question and answer etc. It's just messages being sent by one person. Will it then be permissible to be a member of it? So far I thought mixed group are not jaaiz but maybe there are some permissibility that I am unaware of.

Sincerity in actions

Q: I have a problem with sincerity. No matter how much I try to purify an intention for an action whilst I am doing it, I think: if only so and so could see me now. They would think so highly of me which deprives me of the reward. What can I do to ensure ikhlaas and stop desiring the praise and attention of people because love for fame is a disastrous thing?