proposal

Asking forgiveness from one's relatives

Q: My niece had a proposal fixed n kept meeting in my house.i ws not well yet i cooperated. But she n her mom came late n the boyside came earlier than scheduled time. my husband had gone for namaz. i panicked when she came it was late n i as a hypoglaemic lost my temper due to hunger attack n told her something loudly in kitchen which were insulting words to the boy which he heard in the hall and broke the proposed engagement.since then i m begging for forgiveness from niece her mother,the boy .offering gold n money n even sawab of my umra but my niece refuses to forgive me n has orderd my sister to break relationship wit me.she curses me n uses bad words n filthy language for me n my innocent girl. What should i do now? I m taking treatment for anger issue. I m feeling very sad and depressed.

Superstitious beliefs with regards to marriage

Q: I got a marriage proposal which I wasn’t sure about so my uncle decided to have hisab done. I didn’t know it was haram then but it came back saying the marriage won’t be good for me and I will ultimately marry someone from another country. I have said yes to the proposal but wondering now if I should believe and listen to what the hisab said? Is hisab real? I am doing istikhara but haven’t had a answer yet.

Accepting the proposal of a boy who is already engaged

Q: A boy wants to marry me and he is already engaged. He proposed to me even before his engagement, but there were problems from my side so I responded with a NO. Now he is not happy with his engagement and is having understanding issues with his fiance and wants to get engaged to me. He has good character and is really interested and now I feel the same. He wants to break his engagement in a proper way without degrading his fiance or her family. I want to ask if it is Ok for me to accept the proposal and let him do what he wants or will it be a injustice to that girl? 

Larka purda ku quboola nahi karta

Q: Bandi ka ek aur rishta aya hua ha, rishtedar hain door ke lekin terms bohat ache hain aur bandi unk ghar jati ha wo log bhi hmare ghar ate hain.. shareef log hain, valid sb ka kehna ha k 50 saal se jante hain inlogo ko.

Larka hafiz e Qur'an hai , MBA kiya hua ha . aur unk valid ka business hai well off hain, unka bas ek hi beta ha , aur koi aulad nahi unki.

Masla yeh hai ke wo log sharayi parda bilkul accept nahi karhe. aur bandi sharyi parda karti hai . unka joint family system nahi hai lekin larke k do chacha alag alag floors per rehte hain ek hi ghar me . bandi ko smajh nai araha k bandi kia kare kese sharyi parda utar de aur iske ilawa samne aur koi rishta nahi hai.

Bandi ki do jaga mangni hokar khatam hochuki hai,dono dafa unknown me hui thi, bad me maloom hua k gher muqalladi hain isly wahan mangni khatam kardi.

Bandi k ooper bohat mushkil waqt agaya hai. Aap mashwara dijye bandi kia kare aese waqt me.

Choosing a spouse

Q: I am looking to get married. I am a 25 year old male. I recently went to see a girl and everything about her was good and I feel inclined to accepting her. From her end it is positive too. The only area which is causing me confusion is that although she wears a hijab that covers her hair, neck etc, she does not wear the full abaya. Is this permissible? Would it be permissable for me to marry her if this is the case. I am planning on having another meeting with her in her house in the meanwhile to clarify some more issues and will also ask if she intends to wear one, she did mention that she wants someone to marry who will encourage her in terms of deen. I have also been performing istikhara for over a week and it is all good except doubts on the above question. In my family there is no one that wears the abaya or niqaab, but my mum does wear hijab. I am also trying to encourage my sisters to wear one.