Q: Mera ek ladki se rishta ke baat chit chal rahi hai aur main uss ladki ka character kharab hai bolke suna lekin main yeh pakka nahi janta toh iss halat main mujhe samaj nahi aara main kya decision lo matlab shadi ke liye haan kardo ya naa
Q: I am writing in regards to my situation.
My mother is a single parent with my father having left when we were very young. Many people have sent proposals and my mum refuses each one without any valid reason. Now there has been one proposal from someone I like and I am happy with but my mother is refusing and when asked why says "just".
My grandmother (my mother's mother) and my mum's sister and uncle have looked into the man and his family and are satisfied with his deen and character and from people that know them we have found out that they are respected and humble practising people and the boy is of good character and practising masha'allah. I am very happy with this and would like to go ahead and the rest of my family are also happy but my mum just wont let me get married and won't let me even speak about it and doesn't have any valid reason to say.
I don't know what to do in this situation as I only have my mother as my guardian as my father didn't keep in touch since he left and my brother is only 20 and unfortunately got into the wrong crowd and not at home. My mum doesn't have any brothers either, only sisters. My mother unfortunately does not prioritise deen and I know that either she will not want me to marry for years or the people she may eventually consider will not be based first and foremostly on deen which is what I want.
I don't know what to do in this situation as I would like to marry this person and all the rest of my family are happy with the proposal. I would appreciate your guidance on this matter
Q: I am in a love with a girl for the last 7 years. I asked my mother to go there and ask for rishta. We all went to her home and gave our proposal. They said they shall let us know a week later. After a week they invited us to their home and said we are fine and said Yes for marriage. Before going there me and my mother perform Istikhara and it was good but after saying yes they perform istikhara but saw negative signs. I asked a Mufti and he said you cannot perform istikhara after saying Yes. Please tell me what should I do?
Q: Mai bohat pareshan hu..mera rishta bachpan me mere dada ne mere phupu k ladke k sath fix kie the...to isi wajah se main aur mere phupu ka ladka ek dusre se baat karte the..wo america chale gae..fir b hum baat karte rehte the...wo mujhse wada kare the k mujhse hi shadi karenge...par unke maa baap mane nhi..aur unki shadi karadie wnha...mujhe nhi samaj araha k mai kya karu..wo kehte hai k phn pe nikaah karlenge ab..badme sabko batadenge.mai kya karu...ap mujhe sahi rasta kya hai bata dijie
Q: I have a sister and she is 25 years old and I am her elder brother. Recently we have fixed my sisters marriage with a person who I know. Now I came to know she loves another man, so personally me, my brother, my mother and father tried to contact the boy who my sister loves. When we asked him he says that he don’t want to marry my sister. I did my utmost level to make my sister marry the person she loves but he don’t want to marry her at any cost and he keeps giving excuses of his parents.
Now my sisters marriage is already fix and my sister says that whatever my parents say she will do. I am concerned about my sister and I want to see her happy.
A few days back I spoke to her and explained to her, so she said she will marry with the person her parents wants. Somtimes she is happy somtimes she is sad. I don’t knw what to do. Will I be accountable infront of Allah if she married to the person of our choice.
Q: A boy wants to marry me but he is already married and soon to be a father too. I try to ignore him but he is so possessive and said he will marry me whatever happens and he will try everything to marry me. He is doing wazeefas and he has a rohani mashire too. The boy is so commiteed to marry me but I am so worried because I can't live with his wife. I cant bear it because he stops every marriage proposal that comes to my house for me. Please help me.
Q: I have a very serious issue going on in my life right now and has been going on for a while now! I dont know if its because of nazar or jadoo! I pray regularly! sometimes 4, sometimes 5! I also read the Quran frequently! I'm 30 years old and still unmarried! I did however get proposals in the past, and got engaged but sadly that didnt work out! A few of the proposals were not very suitable and some were! but the problem lies with my mother! she is extremely paranoid and is always suspecting people! Now I finally found someone who is compatible and is a Muslim who also prays but she thinks hes from a different sect which he has said that he is not! He is a Sunni Muslim and so is his family! the problem is my mother is still not convinced and thinks hes not telling the truth! she is always suspecting people and is never satisfied even though she is religious! I understand that she has gone through a lot in her life but now she is not letting me marry! one of my sisters is married alhumdullilah but she is still in denial! Her behavior is getting intolerable! Both are families met and both liked each other except my mother! I gave her a deadline that if she doesnt approve or cause any sort of problem I will have to take the matters into my hands and will therefore marry on my own! My father has agreed to support me and has also given his approval but still the matter has not progressed! everytime I get a proposal something or the other happens! I have done several wazifas and also did istekhara when i first got engaged! nothing seems to be working for me! Im in depression now and sometime I think of ending my life because I have desires too and want to live a normal life and stay away from zinah and evil! My question is If I get my nikkah done at a mosque without my mother or parents or any family member will it be permissible? Please let me know!! I need help!!
Q: We follow a practice in the case of a marriage proposal that first the boys mother comes to see the girl, then both parties make itikhara, if positive, then we go for investigation, meet the boy personally and thereafter when everything appears to be positive, the girl and the boy are shown to each other face to face. My question is that when the girl is shown to the boy after all other steps are done, can she show her hair or uncover her head in front of the boy only with whom she is being proposed to marry?
Q: I need help because I am in very big trouble and I'm going through a very difficult situation.
My parents have been searching for a good match for me. Since the last two years many proposals came but some were rejected. I have always dreamed of a perfect guy. I know I am wrong in this regard. I rejected many becuse I always compare people with others who are spending a perfect life. Another proposal came and my elders liked him as they are way worried of my future life. But he is not educated to my level although he is lucky to have a stable job. But he is not good looking, educated, like my previous rishtas. I don’t even know much of his family history. Just know that he is good Muslim with better character. I am constantly comparing him with prior proposals and pondering over my mistake. I am so guilty. My parents want me to marry him but i still dont. I cant say no to my parents now cause they are forcing me and worried as well. am I also afraid of Allah punishment. Plz help me out what should I do? My heart and mind is not preparing for it since i have tried a lot.
Q: If a boy asks a girl in front of people *Do you want to marry me* or *Will you marry me* and the girl replies yes, does that mean they are married?