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Q: Mein bahut parishan hoon.Actually I stay alone at home and think about divorce all the time,what if my husband said this or that. Yesterday, I told him I have a few questions(4) to ask you. It was regarding one day where we fought and we were not speaking to each other. Then when he came back home i tried to make up and asked him something upon which he told me 'over' or 'tum sab khatam ker dee/it's over. I dont remember exactly but it was something like this.(there was no discussion of talaq/marriage. Yesterday I told him about the incident , he said ,I dont remember. Then i told him that you said 'over/something like that. I asked him if he had some wrong intention.(Aap ka koi ghalat matlab nahi tha na?) He said 'No'.He said 'mera aisa koi matlab nahi tha'. Then he told me you have asked for today.(I told him i will ask you four questions). Husband says 'tumhera aaj ka ho gaya hai'(question). I think he said twice(Dont remember exactly) Then I don t think I asked the same question again. I was quiet for 2-3 seconds listenting to him.(when he said ,tumhere aaj ka(sawal) ho gaya hai).After 2-3 seconds, Then all of a sudden he tells me 'haan hai'. 'There is'.I asked him what 'love'.I told him I am asking you something else. I asked him what you mean by 'haan hai'. He told me that topic was over and that he started another topic.I asked him if he said in continuation of the topic.He said 'No'. I asked him again, Did I ask you again the same question again, and you said 'yes'?. He says 'no'something else was going on in your mind and something else was going on in my mind. I took promise from him on Allah ( which I never do) and he promised 2-3 times that he meant 'haan hai' for something else. Now I am confused. GOD FORBID, What if he meant for that topic ? I am so confused. He tells me I didnot mean it for that topic.Did he mean ,' haan hai, intention of divorce'. I asked him today also he said, he meant love. I am scared what if I had repeated the question and he said 'haan hai' but if that would have been the case i would panicked. I didn t panic when he said 'haan hai'.I just asked what. Has something wrong happened? God forbid, talaq or something.It keeps coming in my mind why he said 'haan hai'. Does 'Haan hai' an incomplete statement? Sorry for troubling you,I dont have any one to share this problem. Please advise.Jazak Allah khair.

Q: My parents are searching for girls for my marriage and when I go to see any girl along with parents I keep on asking them about Deen, Islam, namaaz, Quran recitation and how important is deen to them, all these sort of questions. They give proper reply as well but they are rejecting the match saying that I am very strict or how can I ask such questions as they too are born Muslims. I ask these questions not to check how pious they are or I am not saying that I am perfect, just I am looking for some one who knows Islam well and who can correct me as I am not perfect. So my question is is it wrong to enquire a Muslim girl how much she follows or knows deen?

Q: I am a teenager of 20 years old. I have been watching videos of nudity and masturbate at the same time on my handset. This has been happening for a quiet number of years now. It really bothered me and I always pray to Allah and repent to Him anytime I committed such. But still I will go back again and do the same thing even after repentance. Sheikh I don't know what to do now, I almost hate myself now. It has become a part of me. Please assist me with possible solution, Thank you.

Q: My question is that I am married for 3 years and I found out my husband was cheating on me for the past 2 years. I do not have kids. Now I have decided to take divorce from him and now he is changed and want to live happy with me but on the other hand someone else wants to marry me and I also want to marry him after taking divorce from my husband. Now I am confused that should I go ahead and move on and marry the other person or should I forgive and live with my husband whom has cheated on me? He was involved with my own sister. This made me think to move on. Please help me out. What should I do? I can't ask anyone in my family about this matter. Please let me know ASAP thank you.

Q: A girl liked a guy. The guy's parents contacted girl's parents several times for marriage but girl's parents always refused thinking it as an inappropriate match due to lack of guy's religious commitment and financial stability .The girl left home and did nikah in absence of any of her wali. Now the guy's parents are inviting girl's parents on Walima ceremony. What should girl's parents do? Their daughter disobeyed them and embarrassed them in front of the society. What are the 'sila rehmi' requirements here for parents?

Q: What is the best way to propose marriage? I am afraid I might get rejected, so I want to approach with confidence and calmness.

Q: I have commited zina with a married women with mutual consent despite knowing that it is one of the biggest sins a Muslim can commit. After doing so, the feeling of committing such a grave sin made me feel extremely worried and ashamed. On my way back to home, I kept asking for forgiveness from Allah (Ta'ala) and promised Allah as well as myself that I am not going to do it again. Now, I am still feeling ashamed and I have communicated my situation to the woman I committed the sin with. She is telling me about her feeling the same but forcing me to meet her for the last time just to talk. She is begging me to meet her and promising that she won't come near me and we can meet at a public place but I just don't want to meet her and want to end everything. I tried to tell her about repentance and about the sin we just committed. She is threatening that she won't eat anything and can commit suicide as well due to the feeling of sin. I tried to tell her about the punishment of suicide and everything but she didn't listen. I became so afraid and panicked that I blocked her from everywhere she can contact me. Now I am not in touch with her in any way. Now, I have to ask two questions.

1. I am very ashamed of what I did and feeling very guilty. I have repented with a true heart. But naturally, I am unable to cry and feel very emotional about it. All I can feel is that I have done wrong and don't want to do it again for the sake of Allah but I am unable to ask for forgiveness by crying hard in front of Allah. Even if i want to cry, I couldn't. What should I do for that?

2. If that woman commits suicide behind what happened, is there any responsibility on my shoulder as well? Because whatever happened, I was involved in it and her suicide would be due to me. Would I be accountable for her suicide? If she commits suicide without repentance and asking forgiveness from Allah, would my repentance be accepted?