advice

Wasaawis owr shubuhat

Q: Manay phly bhi sawal arsal ki tha ager aik aurt wehum our weswasy ki mareez ho. Quran sun rahi ho aur lufz (unfusihim) any pur kisy weswasy ki waja sa khud kalami ma keh da yay to quran ka lafz ha ya to kaha ja sukta ha alfaz serf etnay hi boly zehen ma. Allah ki zaat muraad ho. Wo lufz bhi na boly bus lufz sun ker serf etna keh day yay to quran ka lufz hah ya to kaha ja sakta he zuban se, ya hi lufz ada karay. Baki woh lufz aur allah ki zaat ka mutuliq weswsay ya khiyal zahen ma ho to is ka kia kufara ha? Kia is sa Imaan our nikh pur asur ho ga jab ka mera kufer ka khial na tha bus wesway ki waja sa keh dea shitan mujy allah ka bary ma buray weswsay dal rah tha ma na apni taruf ya sooch ker ya to quran ka lufz ha our acha lufz ha aur alfaz keh deayay mujy pata ha ya ba mani jumla ha lakin mujy iman our nikah ka bary ma wehum ho gaeya ha mujy kuch nufseaty mesla ha jo khial zehn ma a jata ha woh zehn sa nahi niklta please mujy is ka hul batany. Muj sa weswason ki waja sa ba many sa jumlay nikal jaty ha halanka mera koi muksud nahi hota pher mujy apny lman our nikha ki feker ho jaty ha. Please mujy batany asy halut ma man kia karon ma bary tention ma hon our dosra jumla ma bolnay to ya lagi thi khana kaba ki tarf monh ker ka nahi thokna caheyy lakin ma na do teen bar ya keh dea khana kaba ki taraf monh ker kay thokna chahy nahi yani nahi. Bad ma kha chahyey phly keh dea ma na gult jumla bol dea ha is ki waja sa ma itny den sa tention ma hon phir meney socha kay tention leney say behtar hai app say rahunamai hasil karoon. Please answer den.

Backbiting

Q: I have a mental condition called psychosis, OCD, split personality disorder and I sometimes just completely just zone out randomly (previous to them I'll be completely engrossed in the remembrance of Allah) and i will start going through my memories of events by judging people, talking to or about them as if I am enacting them, and sometimes my body goes into automation (either 100% or partial while I'm still able to control my self) and I start backbiting them or I just have the emotion of malice that is not genuine and the next word or phrase I say is something dangerously close to backbiting or it is backbiting. In these situations did I backbite these people and do I need to seek forgiveness from the people I have backbited while I was still partial in control? (for example, I'll be randomly talking and acting out a discussion of two people and I will have the emotion of hatred for them and I'll put myself where my next word is to speak bad about them or is dangerously close to it.) I also do these things while I'm talking to Allah myself or to unknown made up intentions to the surrounding area of where I am (I am almost 100% alone when I am doing this).

US visa problem

Q: I have applied for US non-immigration visa to meet my son with my wife and daughter. Today we gave interview but the embassy refused. Now I want to appeal, please suggest.

Interacting with women in the work place

Q: I work in a call centre and my role involves taking calls and speaking to customers. Some of them are women. Unfortunately, living in the UK it's hardly avoidable not to find employment that doesn't involve having some interaction with the opposite gender with the exception of some sort of manual labour work which, is tiresome, and pays very low for long hours. That's not ideal with everything so expensive here now. Alhamdulillah, I try my utmost best to minimise as much interaction as possible. There is never any physical contact just eye contact, and verbal communication. I never do the following:

- Have dinner with them during lunch hours

- Play pool with them during lunch hours like other brothers

- Engage in causal chit-chat, but strictly work related when necessary, only gentle response to a good morning or when they greet me with a pretentious smile

- I never offer them or accept a drive home or to work

- I never get in the elevator if there is more than one female

I always say astagfirullah as much as possible for any shortcoming and just for interacting even when I needed to. With this in mind, am I still sinning working where I am? Allah says in the Qur’an to fear him as much as we can, and I do my utmost best, but it is also frudh for a man to make a living for his family.

Waalid bachcha ku bad dua dena

Q: Agar kisi ke walid (baap) ne apne bache ko bad-dua di ho aur sath me ye bhi kaha ho ke bap ki bad-dua wapis nahi aati, aur uska bacha shadeed bemaar ho jata hay aur kafi elaaj karane ke bawajood koi hal nahi hota. To aesi soorat me kya, kya jae? Agar bap ki bad-dua wapis nahi aati to is mushkil se kese nikla jae?

Husband not coming to fetch the wife

Q: I am a Pakistani girl living in Bahrain. I got married in April and came back to Bahrain. I am waiting for rukhsati but since I came back I have faced a lot of troubles regarding my wedding. My sisters some times ask to finish this nikaah and more than that my brother wants to finish it off and they don't have any reason. I am very tensed everyday. Only these things go on in my mind, but about one to two weeks ago I saw a dream that I was in a bridal dress and was waiting for baraat but the baraat didn't arrive. In the dream I called my husband, he said I am coming but he didn't come. In another dream on the same night I saw a dream that again I was the bride and waiting for baraat but it didn't arrive. Then again last night I saw that there was a small wedding in the house and this time my husband was also there with me and it was our wedding and suddenly he got to some where and again I tried on calling him, he said coming coming but didn't come. All 3 dreams were same that the ending didn't take place. Please tell me what does it mean?

Stray thoughts

Q: I am a Muslim girl. I want to ask you a question about how can I get rid of my evil habits and my evil thoughts. Whenever I start praying to Allah Ta'ala and remember Allah Ta'ala and my Nabi-e-Kareem (Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam) many bad intentions come into my mind. I say many bad things which I don't want to say when I recite the name of Allah Ta'ala or use my Holy Qur'an. I am restless and don't know what to. Please help me for the sake of Allah Ta'ala.