Marital Issues

Q: Its regarding marriage. I had a girlfriend (we didn't do the unlawful thing together) and we were set to get married the halal way with both of our families involved. Now, 5-6 months before marriage, the girl started to say lie statement to me about her family's opinion about our marriage. (WaAllah I believe her decency and she was and is not involved in any ill act with someone else). She did one big mistake, she faked below things.

1. Her family doesn't consider me (her to be husband) as a good match.

2. The boy isn't financially well settled.

3. Her family is interested in getting married to someone else who is more better in wealth and better in family.

4. Created an imaginary person with whom her family wants her to get married.

I trusted her and assumed that all she said is correct (she said all this to me in a long period, not suddenly and hence i believed her) I was so frustrated that I told her that I no longer am interested to get married to you, you can marry the person your family wants you to get married with. She accepted that its her fault that she lied. She cried a lot and said sorry, in front of everyone from her family and my family. But I was so frustrated with this drama that I could no longer believe her and I said, "Sorry, I cant marry you". All this was around 2 years back. Now with the help of Allah I decided to move on and looking forward to marry someone else (not decided to whom, but just looking) Now, the ex-girl says me that she is still waiting for me and wants to get married to me only. Please suggest me what should I do here? Will it be a zulm from my side on her if i don't get married to her? I tried to tell her that she should get married to someone else but she insists and says she loves me. I'm not getting what to do. I want to get married to someone else, but not sure if it would be correct to leave ex-girl?

Q: I have been in a relationship for almost 7 years and we have been discussing marriage. Our only problem is that my family has yet to accept him or our relationship because of his education level. By all accounts, he is a good and religious man. He has help guide me to be a better muslimah and he is kind hearted, generous and loving. How do I get my family to look past his one flaw to see all his other strengths? He might not have a high education but he's hardworking and has accomplished so much in his career despite his education level. He is the one I want to get married to. I just don't know how to get my family to accept him and see him for the wonderful man he truly is.

Q: I did not attend a very close family function as my husband asked me not to, for certain reasons with my uncle. Now everyone's upset because I wasn't allowed to go and are saying I should have attended, who should I listen to? My husband or my mother, I am very confused as they have argued on the phone about it. How do I please Everyone? Without hurting them, please advise on all my questions.

Q: My husband wants to move out of the house. He's been fighting with me for no valid reason and I said to him he will have to divorce me before he leaves because I cannot take him back after he's had a good time with other women. He's willing to give me the divorce. I did call family members here but he said to them he doesn't want me. What should I do?

Q: I did Nikah with a Hindu man already married and having 2 children. We loved each other and having partnership business. But he has not believed in Allah and the Prophet Muhammed (Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam). I had been making dua for his hidayat for having a lawful life in future. But today after 6 months of nikah he repeated 3 times the word, Taalaq in anger. Is Talaq happened between us. My doubt is that since he is an unbeliever, so there had been no valid Nikah took place and hence no Talaaq as well. Kindly put light on to this. I really do not want to have any illusion on the cost of my imaan. Allah will reward you brother for your kind job. Please reply.

Q: I am a 26 year old boy from India. I have a non-muslim (Hindu) girl friend 25 years old since 5 to 6 years. I explained her about Islam and its beauty. She got a lot of knowledge about Islam and now we want to marry and live together. But we have two problems in our way:

1. My family doesn't know about our relationship so far and my father is a heart patient, he faced a heart attack recently. Due to Indian culture and society he will never allow us to live together.

2. If I leave the girl then she will have to go back to her past and I am afraid her family will marry her with a non-muslim boy and she will not able to become a Muslim in the future after knowing facts about Islam. I am confused, if I marry her my father may not able to face this situation. Please give me the best solution. I want to know what is best in the way of Allah.

Q: I am a forty year old women. Married for 21 years. My husband is involved with a women. I had caught him several times doing heinous activities. I have always tried to conceal and believe his fake clearances. I offer five times salah. I learn and teach Quran. I had always been far from any heinous acts. Now that he has lost his interest in me. I have read in Qur'an somewhere that good man for good women and sinful man for sinful women. Does this mean that I am also sinful? Or do some other sin so that I am paired with this man? I have four daughters. My husband shouts aloud in the house so that no one dares to discuss his evil activities. I don't know what shall I do. Every next day of my life seems more miserable. Please help me out and pray for me. If there is any wazifa in this regard, please let me know.