Aborting a child due to Bipolar Disorder

Q: We were gifted with a baby girl 6 months ago and now yesterday we came to know that my wife is again pregnant. She is suffering from Bipolar Disorder, after the birth of 1st child, and is taking medicine for cure. If the medicine is stopped, it might harm her according to doctors. She is under deep mental stress and if the medicine is stopped it will be further problem. So I request your good self that can we abort the foetus to avoid bigger problems in my family life. We should have taken care before but I was not knowing that she is under this kind of mental depression as I was away for 5 months. I am under deep tension since yesterday and hope you will guide me to the right path, Insha Allah.

Dream

Q: A guy came to see me on Sunday and on Monday morning after Fajr I had a dream. I hadn't made istikhaara or anything yet because it was too early. He hadn't even yet proposed. I dreamed that we were walking along my Aunty's street but in my mind it was a different country though I recognised it. I asked the guy that came to see me for a divorce while we were walking because I was fighting with him. He laughed and refused to give it to me. The guy in the dream and the guy in reality were two different people, the guy in reality wears kurta and has a beard whereas the other had neither. I think maybe it's because I cannot remember the face of the guy that came to see me.
I was feeling hot and sick while we were walking because the sun was hot and I was pregnant (i think that was what was making me feel sick) but I didn't know it in my dream. The next thing I remember is that we were by my Aunty's house and their maid  (who passed away) put me in the shower so that I could cool down. After a while I became aware that my Aunty and some other people were watching me shower and I realised that I was naked so I think I made myself wear clothes because when I looked down at myself again, I had clothes that covered me enough but by then they had turned away.

After he proposed I read istikhaara salah and I had a dream that my mother or somebody told me to go see red tomatoes or something and I think the guy that came to see me was by it. I woke abruptly from this dream. These dreams seemed long but were very short.

Formal dress code for nikaah

Q: What is the correct dress code for a bridegroom at his nikah? Is it mandotary for him to be dressed formally? ie. with a waist coat, formal
shoes, collared kurta. etc. Or is it preffered that he dresses neatly in Islamic attire, for example with just a kurta, turban, and normal non-formal shoes?

Dream

Q: My mother is 48. By Allah's will she's bed ridden since one year. Soon it will be two years. She suffers a lot, cancer and backbone problem. She is bed ridden
now. May Allah grant her shifah. Ameen.

I dreamt that she died, but even then we were talking to her. You know in dreams...it happens. So I was asking her about her sakaaraat. She said this cannot be explained. Yet she seemed to be happy. He was standing and walking as well and was waiting for her burial. Then she was taken away and buried. I could hear myself reading minha
khalaqnakum... while others were throwing soil... I wish to know whether this dream has got any interpretation or is it just some thoughts going round the mind and then coming in the form of dreams?

Often I dream about ox, cattle...running after me..but I always escape them in the dreams.. I run a lot. At times I fight them too but that's rare. I wish to know if there is any thing related to my life. Please note that i'm neither a farmer nor do I have any animal. 

Dreaming at the time of Salaah

Q: I keep having similar dreams and its always before namaaz time. I once had a dream about someone who I was on the phone to and I can tell that they have been crying and they are saying one thing to me but mean another thing. I have had few other dreams about the same person where I am talking to them but can't remember what was said. Then one day before Fajar namaz I had a dream where I was asking this same person a question and I was really upset in the dream. At the same time it was very windy and then slowly the wind said something to me, it said I am coming back and the voice was very soft but it was the voice of the person I am talking about. Could you please help me understand these dreams. I am usually quite good at understanding dreams but this one I don't understand. I would be ever so grateful if you can please help me on this matter. Also I keep experiencing dejavus, where I keep feeling like I have seen certain situations before. What does that mean? I hope you can answer my questions.

Detesting filth an evil

Q: My mother in-law is a non Muslim and is a lesbian, she lives with another woman. I don't allow my 10 year old to sleep over because I don't want to expose her to that life style as I am totally against it. They also use alcohol and I don't like going there is it wrong if I tell my husband I don't want to go with him and that I don't want my children to go there a lot. Shuran for taking the time to read my question.