Removal of hair for one performing hajj and qurbaani

Q: I know that if a person will be performing qurbaani, then he should avoid removing his hair and nails during the first ten days of Zul-Hijjah, until his qurbaani animal has been slaughtered.

However, when performing hajj, I am told that you should remove your hair and nails before the 7th Zul-Hijjah. My questions are as follows:

1. If you are performing qurbaani and hajj, when should you remove your hair and nails?

2. Do you need to perform the qurbaani yourself, or can it be performed at home (back in South Africa) by someone else (parents, siblings or your children)?

Neighbours giving one haraam food

Q: Our Muslim neighbours offered my husband chicken biryani but we were not sure if the chicken was halaal or not since we've seen them before buying non halaal chicken but they argue that its halaal. We removed the chicken from the biryani and ate the rice but we felt bad about it. What must be done in such situations? 

Hazrat Aasiyah (radhiyallahu anha) being the wife of Rasulullah (sallallahu alaihi wasallam) in Jannah

Q: I have heard that Hazrat Aasiyah (radhiyallahu anha) will be among the wives of Rasulullah (sallallahu alaihi wasallam) in Jannah, but I do not know whether this is true or not. Can I make dua to Allah Ta'ala to make me the husband of Hazrat Aasiyah (radhiyallahu anha) in Jannah?