Teachers hitting children

Q: There are many madarasahs running in my locality. Specially those teaching kids. The ladies running the madarasa are too violent on kids. 3 year old kids, not even able to speak properly are asked to keep records of their prayers, and when these kids skip a prayer, mostly fajar, complaining that our mother didn't wake up us, the lady says that it's your responsibility to wake up not your mothers, and slap the kids so badly that their cheeks turn red and they begin crying. These ladies use dusting stick to hit on the kids palm so violently that the kids burst in tears. In case, when the kids could not memorise the lesson allocated to them yesterday, the ladies turn their ears in such a way that it's tongue comes out and the ear goes red and the kid cry aloud. Because of the crowd of kids, the lady running the madarasa has appointed other young girls to teach the very young and these girls are even more violent. In one of the madarasa the girl complaining that I couldn't wake up because my mother didn't wake me up was asked to pray 10 nafil to compensate the loss. They behave very badly with kids. Is it permissible to do this kind of violence in teaching Quran? Please support your views with AHaadith. What should I do being in the locality?

Contraceptives

Q: My question is regarding the Islamic teachings of having offsprings after marriage as Islam strictly prohibits the birth control methods. I have three kids. All unplanned and my husband blames me for having them as he suggested to abort the second and third one. Allah blessed me with a boy and two girls but my husband keeps saying at least 5-10 times per day that we have a lot of children and blames me for having them. What should I do? How to save myself from the mental trauma as he blames every single thing on having babies?

Temporary nikaah

Q: I read in a fatwa according to Mufti Taqi Uthmani (D.B.) if there is a strong possibility of falling prey to Zinaa and fornication then it will be permissible to marry a woman on a temporary basis with the condition that no mention of time is made in the actual enacting of the Nikaah. Temporary Nikaah is not at all encouraged by the Shari’ah therefore it will only be resorted to in dire need. My question, if one really fears zina, can both partners intend to be just a time, but in the actual nikaah no time limit is mentioned. And in really dire situation can one do nikaah with a prostitute? I know that that is a disgusting question, but I want to know what's the ruling if one fears zina and gets depression etc, will the nikaah be valid with two witnesses?

Making tawbah and crying over one's sins

Q: I am very sinful. Repeatedly I make tauba but I break it all the time by repeating my sins. My questions are as follows:

1. Should I stop doing good Amaal like coming out in Jamaat or sitting in the front saff of the Musjid?

2. When giving Bayaans in Jamaat, I feel hypocritical. Should I stop giving these bayaans?

3. Should I stop travelling to holy places because I am filthy with sins?

Taking an oath to become a disbeliever if one does a certain action

Q: I would like to ask I made an oath that if I do such an such then I am a disbeliever after I marry my fiance who I really want to marry. When I made that oath I felt like I meant it when I said I will be a disbeliever. If I marry my fiance does this mean that I will be a disbeliever? I regret what I said and I am now worried. What should I do, please help me.

Marital problems

Q: Does a wife have to obey her husband if he tells her she can't read istikhara? My husband insists that we live with his parents and unmarried brothers. I have told him that I cannot live there anymore as it is too stressful and besides my room and bathroom I have no privacy. Even when my room door is closed one can still hear us talking etc. From outside the room and even downstairs. We have 2 children and they both sleep in the room with us. My husband and I have been have many marital issues and I eventually left and went back to my parents home because I could not manage living there and I could not take his behavior towards me anymore. He told me that it is haram that I left. I wanted to read istikhara about whether I should go back but he has forbidden me to. Is this correct?